Standing Strong

Friendship is such a funny thing. People will show their true colors when you set boundaries. The way a person reacts when they are told no by a friend says a lot. A true friend won't guilt trip you or make you out to be the bad guy.

I’m not exactly sure how I’m supposed to feel right now. I’ve never been good at setting boundaries or saying no. I’ve been a people pleaser my entire life. It’s a hard habit to break. Especially when it comes to people that I care about. I don’t want my friends to be upset with me.

I am realizing more and more now that if someone is truly my friend they’ll understand my boundaries. I heard somewhere that if your boundaries make someone uncomfortable then they are the toxic person. And I understand that more now. I shouldn’t have to feel bad about setting boundaries with someone.

It sucks losing a friend to those boundaries. I refuse to be used and treated badly any longer. I am not responsible for other people’s lives. I have every right to feel the way I do. I deserve to be treated with respect and not be given ultimatums. I have no problem limiting access to my life or completely cutting people off. I will no longer be giving explanations to anyone.

I've put in all my energy where I should have put in none. I've given my time to people who didn't deserve it. I'm realizing what my true worth is. I'm finally finding my true inner peace and I refuse to have anyone ruin it. I don't owe anyone an explanation for how I live my life. If I completely cut someone out of my life, there's always a good reason.

I don't want to have people in my life who will drag me down. The saying you are who hang around is such a true statement. The people that you surround yourself with has a huge impact on your everyday life. I read a quote that said, don't take advice from people who aren't where you want to be in life. It doesn't matter if they're friends or family.

Life is too long to be surrounded by miserable, unhappy people. It's too short to not live the way you want to. I will no longer cater to the feelings of people who have repeatedly disrespected me. People who never took my feelings or life into consideration. There is no excuse for disrespect. Again I am no longer giving explanations for why I'm cutting people out of life.

I read a quote that said, "Disrespect can permanently shut doors that apologies cannot re-open." That really made me think about the people I have in my life. I constantly accept people's apologies after they treat me badly. Disrespect will no longer be tolerated. If I stop talking to someone maybe the should do some self-reflection. I put up with a lot, but when I'm done, I'm completely done.