It Doesn’t Make Sense for Women to Get Married Anymore

In the same way that men have always been encouraged to live out their bachelor years before settling down with a younger woman to finally start a family after 4 or 5 decades of life, women are finally free to make the same choice.

Oftentimes, I hear that men are afraid of getting married. When they are single, they have nothing to lose. Once they get married, there’s a 50% chance that they will lose half of what they have (but what do they even have to give if they don’t get married until 40 or 50 years old?) in the divorce to their partner. On the flip side, the traditional argument goes that women have the opposite problem. As time increases, they become older, have a higher risk of pregnancy, and thus decrease their chance of meeting someone they can marry.

But times have changed. Vibrators are a thing, emotional closeness built of abolishing the idea that other women are your competition, and it’s becoming clearer and clearer that boys generally lack compared to women in almost every area of life that is valued in a marriage.

Now, the rate of women going to medical school is higher than their male counterparts. Women on average have a higher starting salary after college.

Women are actively disincentivized to get married.

50 years ago, women could not open a bank account or own a house in their name. Thus, the only way women could survive is to get married once they came of age to ensure that their family did not need to continue to support them. Women were not just expected to stay at home to raise the children and clean the home, but they were not able to get jobs outside of the home.

Even then, marriage was a tool of systemic institutionalization of the nuclear family, which included a heterosexual mother and father and offspring. It was not the fairytale so many movies advertise it to be, but a legal contract with great tax, medical, and legal ramifications.

Weaponized incompetence

Men who are lazy and selfish are putting the responsibilities of life onto women. Stories of men taking a mile where women give an inch are running women into the ground. A husband will not work for a full year and blame it on his depression. But if the wife doesn't work for a year because of an immuno-compromised system, she is a gold-digger taking advantage of him.

I used to love this Youtube couple online named Jess and Gabriel. Most people assume that Gabriel brought in at least half of their income from their lucrative Youtube channel. But it was recently revealed that Jess was the one who brought in 100% of all income because Gabriel was too depressed to make videos or work. There's nothing wrong with putting work down to focus on your mental health, but the couple has also taken on financial burdens together that only Jess contributed to.

In a popular “What I Spend in a Day” video, her husband Gabriel talks about spending close to $200 a week on a laundry service. All while having an in-unit washer and dryer down the hall from their bedroom. Gabriel says that he thinks that saving himself time doing laundry will give him back time to earn money doing something else. Now, that makes sense if the income he is bringing in significantly outweighed taking a bundle of laundry and putting it in a machine where it washes it for you after pressing one button. But at the point of the filming of this article, he was not creating content or making money. So who is paying for the $800 laundry service? Jess. As the breadwinner, she is already paying most of the household expenses toward their double mortgage and car payments and bringing all of the money in to support the two-person household. In addition, Jess is seen doing almost all of the housework by cooking meals, cleaning the house, and interior decorating the house. Over the last 6 years, Jess is the only one who plans birthday surprises for Gabriel that he never reciprocates to nearly the same degree.

This is such a clear and devastating example of the unpaid emotional labor that women take on on top of the financial burden that they would otherwise spend on their own assets without having to drag along dead weight. Prior, women were taken advantage of by being pressured to do unpaid work in the home but now boys understand that they can manipulate women into making up the income in a marriage based on sheer laziness.

When this revelation came to light in the couple’s vlogs, the couple’s Youtube channel views dropped dramatically by 33%. When I think of Jess and Gabriel now, I don’t think of a beautiful, young couple who are engaged in an equal partnership. I think of a beautiful, capable woman who is being taken advantage of by a lazy, irresponsible young boy who she made the mistake of marrying.

By seeing sad real-life situations like this, it is like a preview to a bleak future if a woman chose to get married to an incompetent boy.

Examples like this make it so clear that a young, successful woman is most likely going to get the short end of the stick if she decides to get married.

Boys are raised to be entitled while women are raised to be responsible.

Boys need to get married because they would otherwise flounder financially and socially without help from their family members or close friends who will continue to enable their behavior.

There’s a misconception that women date boys based on potential whereas boys take women as they are.

With deeply misogynistic boys referring to women as products with expiration dates after passing a certain age, society actively ignores the fact that boys never grew up at all. They remain stagnant at an unmoving place. And you know what stagnant water attracts? Flies.

Despite the sexist assumptions that women need to be beautiful to be marriable, it is often ignored that boys lack in almost every other aspect of what makes someone likable (i.e.personality, loyalty, financial security) compared to women. And this on top of how most boys look like they jumped out of a dumpster compared to the amount of thought and effort women put into their appearance is laughable.

Unless a man meets your expectations that you would want in a long-term friend in professional, social, and emotional fulfillment of goals, they are not worth your time or undoubted future effort. Save that time ad your resources to re-invest into yourself and not a draining sinkhole of a husband. Otherwise, their incompetence will drain you dry and leave you with anxiety in meeting goals that should be fulfilled by 2 people in a partnership, and not by 1 woman.