Being a Mom and looking Amazing
Being a mom doesn’t equal dressing dull.
Here is the thing: Because I am now a mom, the typical thing that is said in Hispanic families is that it is not appropriate to wear clothes that make you look slutty. Being a mom, it looks weird for me to be wearing matching outfits such as a crop top with shorts, or flare pants with a form-fitted shirt. My sister-in-law would say to me that if I was still single and not a mom, I could dress in outfits that one would normally wear at a club and honestly I didn't like that mindset. I didn’t like feeling like being a mom meant that I don’t deserve to glow.
I want to clarify this: You can be a mom and not have to dress in a boring style. I want to be the mom that looks good and doesn't feel old. I think what matters most is being a caring and responsible mom and at the same time giving yourself self care. I ordered cute outfits from Shein and showed them to two of my closest friends and they loved them on me. One thing I talked about with my best friend was that I wanted to change my style a bit and feel confident. While I like the casual style, I wanted to go for a style that would make me stand out or at least make me feel like I am blooming.
Over these couple weeks, these are the outfits that I wore when going out. I will only share a few! I also want to make it clear that being a mom should not make you feel like your life is over. In my experience, I love my daughter with all my heart and she is my happiness, and despite being a mom, I don’t like feeling like that is all I’m good for. My change in style is just an example of me demonstrating that I am ignoring the mindset of others in Hispanic culture which is that being a mom means I need to look dull.
This first outfit is a crop top with flare pants. Have you ever been through a stage in your life where you change your mindset on certain fashion styles? That is basically me, in the past I would be all about skinny jeans, I thought flare pants or flare jeans just didn’t look good. However now, I prefer these types of pants over skinny jeans. Although I don’t have a flat stomach, I still felt really cute in this outfit.
Let me just say: the last time I wore a romper was when I was 12 years old, and at that time I felt confident in whatever I wore because back then I was skinny, however as time passes, changes in the body occur. I always used to see girls wearing rompers and they looked amazing because of their flat stomach. I don’t have a flat stomach but I decided to go ahead and get a romper. I have to say I wasn’t disappointed at all. I walked with my head held up that day.
I’m really happy that I wasn’t hesitant on wearing this outfit. It is clear that I don’t have a flat stomach, but honestly, I felt so incredibly hot! This outfit made me feel like I was glowing.
I bought these red pants at Ross Stores! Apart from getting the red pants I wanted a matching color, so I got a simple green shirt as well. Let me just say I loved the art design of these pants!
I feel that when it comes to outfits, they should not instantly define us. If I wear a short skirt it does not imply I crave attention from men, and I genuinely believe that becoming a mom shouldn’t make us believe that we can’t stand out.
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Situations are different and people are different. It is great that you have found your niche and are proud of yourself. Give it a few years and then get back to us. Happy you are happy. You look great.
Nice one dear
Good story! 😁 You actually look young to be a mother.
inspiring and great to remember that you are still an individual when a mother and that all of the elements which make you unique still exist and great to see another empowered female write her story
You have the right mindset and you look amazing! It's a sad shame how modern society still categorizes women, whether young, old or in between. Live for you and your daughter will grow up empowered because she learned from her beautiful mama!
Nice! I think every mom would relate with you.
Refreshing. More power to you! Great post!
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As a lover of jeans and a t-shirt or sweat pants and a t-shirt, I do admit that dressing up changes things. Even though I was never one to really dress up except for formal occasions, I realized how far I had fallen into comfort wear when my kids would make comments like, "where are you going" and "what's the occasion" all because I was finally wearing a skirt or dress to something other than church. Wearing dresses and skirts really enchances how we carry ourselves and how others interact with us. Congratulations on Top Story!
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