Without a Single Water Placement, With So Much Emotion.

People often assume that just because someone doesn't outwardly express openly, it is often assumed that they do not feel a lot.

That if they don't show it, they don't feel it.

That if they don't freely give their emotions that they must not care.

That is they don't prioritize feeling that they must not be in-tune with themselves, with their humanity.

That they aren't emotional simply because they do not wear everything they feel for everyone to know. That maybe they don't even have emotions...an invalidating statement in itself.

That if they don't speak and act with emotions that they must be without when it is actually quite the opposite.

That a birth chart without a single water placement that they must struggle with emotions...that they will always have a challenging time in articulating feelings, processing emotions, and conveying them.

...when in fact I think that it is the lack of that allows for there to be more.

It is almost as if feeling less is to feel more.

It is being able to learn to isolate the things that you do feel that makes them be more.

It is being able to take the space, take the time, little by little.

It is being able to figure out the things that we feel rather being thrown into them all at once all the time without our permission.

It is the intentionality that lies in learning to lean into feeling rather than falling into feeling.

It is the lack of water that allows the space to think first and find our way in the things that we feel rather than vice versa.

It is being able to learn to prioritize both feeling and thinking equally; logical and emotional.

It is the ability to be able to process things individually and find clarity in all aspects without feeling clouded and consumed by everything that could be felt if we naturally defaulted to water.

It is learning to find balance, not stay static in the comfort of our default in how we perceive the world and process things.

It allows the challenge of choice, of growth rather than being thrown into the midst of feeling everything and trying to surface for air while trying to find a path to shore.

It isn't a control, it isn't a limiting factor unless we allow it to be but more a propellant just in our own time we will see it as such.

It gives us the space to mature into the things that we feel and learn how to understand those parts of ourselves in the most honest way and when we are ready because we weren't just freely given access to these parts of ourselves, we weren't given the key.

It is the decision of if we want to find the key or stay in the safety locked inside of our own world.

But just as someone who refuses to feel can be volatile and toxic, so can someone equally only driven by emotion and not an thought of logic or rationale.

If we choose to we will find the key in the time that is right for us...some may never but those that do usually find the path to having a healthier relationship with the things they feel in the process.

Allowing them to grow and evolve pieces of themselves that they had to choose to want, to see, and to understand.

It is the journey to figure out how to articulate the part of ourselves that we feel instead of them freely manifesting uncontrollably inside of us.

It is learning how to take control of them rather than them controlling us.

It is giving them a voice before they make a voice for themselves.

It is the challenge of learning to welcome and not fear feeling, to see it as friend and not foe.

It is building that relationship within ourselves to allow our perception of emotions to develop.

It is learning how to create an environment where we can nurture a safe place rather than a place of fear for the things we feel.

It is where instead we get to choose to make a place for these things rather than feel overwhelmed and consumed by everything and feeling anxious by it all because of there being the lack of default emotional space inherently present if there was water placements.

It is the lack that makes space.

I feel it is often confused the concept of people with water placements are feelers and people think that if you aren't a feeler or don't have a specific placement saying you are "capable" that you will have trouble processing your emotions, but I think that this is wrong.

It is the concept that you have to be a feeler to feel that is faulty because it is simply a different approach to feeling if you're a thinker but not the ability to still feel or process things.

It isn't capability that should be every in question unless it is perspective that is limiting someone's ability to evolve.

It is just more of a matter of thinking through our feelings rather than just feeling through our feelings.

It is a path of figuring our how to navigate the things that we intrinsically feel and conveying them to others in a conducive way rather than just emoting them because for us it is more than just a feeling, it is a thought that we break down into feelings and emotions.

It is the difference in rationalizing rather than acting uninhibited in making decisions and interactions.

It is often seen as not being as heavily in-tune with one's emotions when someone doesn't default to being openly expressive and while I think for some that could be true, I don't think it is completely true.

It's learning that blindness emotion is never good but nor is emotionless rationale finding strength in the balance.

I think that it takes a higher level of introspection and attunement to be able to isolate and think through the things being felt and finding a way to communicate that rather than just react based on feelings.

It is finding the connection point of where the water meets earth and acknowledging that you can be both of land and sea.

It isn't a matter of either extreme but embracing both.

It is the learning curve of seeing the world with eyes wide open but learning sometimes there are moments when you should close your eyes.

It isn't if they feel but more of a if they want to feel, if they welcome feeling.

If they have learned to embrace the emotions when they come.

It is more of a question of the inner work that someone has done to make peace with the part of them that doesn't come as easily, the part of them that is often more easily suppressed and not always fun to feel and can be easily shut off.

It isn't a dispute of if water is essential in processing in needs a presence but if the cycle of comfort and thinking one way of being is right but being open to more.

It is the option to stay detached, to avoid, to be cold, or to create a safe space for emotions to live or continue to allow those parts to hide.

It is also the opportunity to grow in self awareness in accessing this part introspectively on our terms and taking control rather than letting it control us.

I think that sometimes the perception of people that aren't super emotional is that they are less human when in reality everyone feels, it just isn't universal how everyone expresses that but work has to happen on both sides of the spectrum of how people feel and convey those emotions.

For people with water sign placements, especially in a big three sense it means that they often times are starting from ground 100 and having to work backwards in a way sorting through everything whereas no water placements is working from ground zero and working forward unlocking and finding clarity bit by bit.

It is having to figure out how to process and communicate on all ends of the spectrum whether water is present or not because the question isn't if emotions are present, for some they are just more hidden or not unlocked yet.

Water signs might encompass emotional elements but it doesn't gift the innate skills of communication and comprehension those are things that have to be development and nurtured regardless of how much or how little you naturally are able to hone into the things you feel.

There are many very emotionally driven people that have absolutely no idea how to articulate the things they feel or even begin to understand the places that the things they feel actually come from.

I think it is important to note with the emphasis that people might put on needing water in a chart is that...an excess and overwhelming influx of emotions can be just as chaotic and tumultuous as not feeling anything. But it doesn't mean that you can't find a middle ground.

It is a choice of evolving into feeling, the side of our humanity when water isn't present that some will choose to find and others will choose to continue to suppress.

It is a matter of introspection. It is a matter of self reflection.

It is just as some choose to healing in the ways that we may naturally default to for ease of comfort, protection, fear and thus allow our pain to manifest within us subconsciously controlling us and the things we feel.

It is the feeling of having mental clarity to intentionally choose to feel and navigate rather than forced to feel and driven by the feelings and impulses of strong emotions.

It isn't a matter of water being present or not.

It is an understanding that chaos doesn't mean that you have clarity.

It is a matter of perspective. It is a matter of maturity. It is a matter of growth.

You can feel all the feelings in the world and have no idea what you are feeling at the same time.

Emotions without understanding are no more than feelings controlling you by the chaos that ensues within you.

It is understanding that being extremely emotional unchecked without the kinds of qualities that someone who lacks water has can be extremely volatile.

It is a matter of understanding that being inherently emotional does not show any true capacity to truly process what you feel intrinsically.

It is often concluded that those who are naturally super emotional are able to have more empathy, have the capacity to understand more but often times I feel it is the ones that do not.

It is the thought of how can someone genuinely hold space for another's feelings, how can you find clarity if they only come from a place of only feeling.

How can you truly exhibit empathy if you haven't learned how to hold your own feelings, how to validate your own feelings and not allow them to overwhelm you, and how to not prioritize them over others when you feel too much; when you feel so strongly.

It is not an implicit excuse to not be empathetic because of not naturally being emotional nor is it right to assume someone will be because they show much emotion.

It is the other side of the spectrum, the thinkers that understand that there is a time and place for feeling and for thinking.

It is not being driven by emotion but living with the awareness and the mindfulness that comes from having to learn to feel and gaining the understanding that comes with it that makes the value inherently more valuable when it is something that didn't just come naturally to you.

It means feeling misunderstand as feeling nothing when in fact sometimes you feel everything.

It is coming from a place of not having to work in a state of feeling too much to coral all that you feel but advancing.

It is working to find not having to learn how to control but how to convey, how to communicate, how to articulate.

It is the innate ability of being thinkers naturally rather than feelers that actually allows us to not be overwhelmed by the things we feel, the emotions that come because we aren't driven by them, we don't feel the impulsive need to feed them.

It is the perspective of trying to find the fine line of balance in the humanity that lives within us between the emotions we feel and the logic we know.

It is coming from a place of being driven by logic and rational but not to be confused with not feeling anything.

It is learning how not to reject the parts of us that feel so that we can heal.

It is learning how to stop perceiving them as the enemy or as weakness but learning the strength that lies in taking the time to understand them, to give them a voice but not give them control.

It is not to be confused with an excuse to be cruel, to be cold...to be detached.

It has nothing to do with someone's ability to feel if they choose to disassociate, discard, or deactivate from the things they do feel.

It is equally an active choice for those to avoid emotions rather than address them not because they are devoid of feeling but because they are afraid. It isn't the lack of water placement, it is the lack of being ready to be honest with one's self.

It is a choice to choose to care as it is to stay careless, to exist mindless when you could be mindful; when you could learn to be considerate.

It is not any excuse but that is an individual choice to grow or refuse. To shut down and submit to comfort or to stay open and grow.

It is the understanding that I hope finds you that not everything that comes naturally is meant to be your potential but more your starting point, your evolution point.

Not your comfort blanket, not your lifetime security blanket that leaves all those you try to connect with an care about feeling cold.

It is a choice to stay disconnected with ourselves, that is the truth the lack of water reveals to us.

It isn't a question of if we have emotions but if we will allow ourselves a place, if we will take the time to create a safe space for those things to thrive or if we will silence them.

It is a choice of if we will take the time to connect, to hear.

It is the challenge to be more. It is being able to not act out of just feeling.

It is the will to learn how to attach to the humanity that lives within us when we want to just rationalize it away.

It is the moment when all we do is feel that we need to think and being able to find stability in that.

It is the chance to be mindful in moments that we want to think when all we need to do is feel.

It means being able to just be in feeling and being able to just be, acknowledge and understanding without feeling led by it.

It is understanding that there is a big difference in the kind of person who genuinely doesn't give af and is selfish and someone who just simply isn't driven by emotion.

It is understanding that being driven doesn't mean devoid.

It is the lack of water that might be present but not a lack of feeling.

It is a choice of feeling but that is beauty that lies in that choice that when chosen, it can be a beautiful evolution.

It is the ability to not be driven emotionally that allows a healthier, more balanced relationship to coexist intrinsically knowing that you'll be able to thrive through thinking while also allowing yourself to feel.

It means finding clarity. Finding connection. Finding comprehension.

It means that if we want to take the time to find that part of ourselves that there is so much to be found, at our pace, and in our own time often after a very tumultuous past with fighting with our feelings trying to invalidate rather than accept those parts of ourselves.

It means finding ourselves.

It does mean emotions. It means feelings.

It doesn’t mean constant but it does mean awareness, presence.

It does mean navigating. It does mean learning. It means consuming still at times.

It means discomfort. It means hard. But, it also means worth it.

But that capacity, that ability has nothing to do with the fact of if there is water deeply rooted within you or not but more of with how much time you have taken to learn how to understand yourself and how to communicate the things you feel.

It means the constantly evolution of the emotions you feel but that isn't something that you're born with.

It means that while there is the ability to stay stagnant in defaulting only to thinking or only to feeling there is always the opportunity to move forward.

It means it is more of the question of if you've take the time to develop the skills to process the things you've felt, experienced, and learned how to convey in a way that honors yourself and respects others.

It is more so the variable of if you've done the work to understand the extremes of the innate placements that you've been born with but not allowed those to define you, to bound you but to allow you to evolve.

It isn't water that teaches people how to communicate the things they feel in a healthy way.

It isn't water that teaches people to be destructive or productive with their emotions. It isn't water that gives the innate sense of balance and stability.

It is water that is an essential part of humanity but it is completely up to us as to how essential, how vital, and how integral we allow that element to play in who we are, how we treat ourselves, how we treat others, and how we move through life.

It is understanding that a water placement has nothing to do with someone's emotional capacity to express, feel, and process their emotions.

It isn't water that teaches us what to do with the things we feel because that is something we must define and find for ourselves.

It isn't water that will make you process the things you feel.