Why Do I Overshare Whenever Somebody Listens?

Do you find yourself pouring your heart out to anyone who pays you any positive attention?

Have you ever had a co-worker or acquaintance ask you a question and you proceed to tell them about the traumatic thing that happened to you at age ten and how it affected the trajectory of your entire life?

Me too…

Why Do I Feel So Self Conscious And Insecure?

Due to depression, self-loathing, and a low level of self-confidence from my mental health/addiction struggles over the last few years, I developed the default idea that everybody either tolerates me or hates me.

At certain times it’s hard to believe that anybody could actually enjoy my company or want me around at all.

Even though I know this isn’t the truth and there is a boatload of evidence supporting the contrary, it is a frequent thought that I need to fight on a daily basis.

This really affects my social life and relationships with other human beings. It almost feels like I am always on defense.

It’s also really hard to enjoy anybody’s company when you think they don’t want you around. This has led me to lead sort of a hermit life, mostly sticking to myself and only venturing into the outside world when absolutely necessary.

Why Do I Spill The Beans When Showed Any Interest By Someone?

I think the fact that somebody has shown interest in me when I had assumed nobody wanted anything to do with me, gets me overexcited and happy.

It provides a great sense of relief. Perhaps my beliefs that nobody likes me are false and people really do want me around.

This overexcitement leads me to overshare, well what I think is oversharing. Perhaps it is just the social anxiety making me self-conscious about oversharing and I am just conversating like a normal human.

Who knows?

The truth is it feels very good when someone shows an interest in your life and they actually want to hear more about you.

So I tell it all…

Should I Even Care About Oversharing?

Honestly, no. I know what is appropriate to share with other people so I don’t speak about anything that would jeopardize my work or social life.

Oversharing simply makes me self-conscious because I am used to isolating or baring my soul from the safety of my computer chair.

Also as long as I am being respectful and not saying things that hurt myself or others, there really is no harm in oversharing at all.

What it all comes down to is whether or not I want to worry about what other people think of me.

The simple answer is no, I do not want to care about what others think of me.

The more complicated answer is that while I don’t want to care what other people think of me I will always care to some point, it’s human nature.

However, I need to learn to not let it get me down, stop me from doing things, and most importantly, stop me from sharing my experiences and feelings with others.

It’s possible something I have to say may be exactly what someone else needs to hear at that particular time. You never know who you may help by sharing your experiences, strength, and hope.

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