The old age, only to find the valuable alone

When one is alone as if forgotten by the world, there is no sense of existence, so panic to rush into the crowded crowd, so that the noise fills the inner emptiness, but did not think that after the hustle and bustle are endlessly empty.

Sometimes, knowing that the hustle and bustle are not beneficial, but still relieve the inner emptiness and force themselves, thinking they can get what they want, but in fact, they are pushing themselves into the endless abyss, the more they desire, the more they will fall.

In fact, there is time to indulge in ineffective social, rather than spend time on themselves.

Someone said, "Solitude is the necessary space for the soul to grow."

Everyone should learn to be alone, to know themselves by reflecting on themselves, to improve themselves by focusing on themselves, to sharpen themselves by enjoying being alone, and to let themselves thrive in the process of being alone.

1、Continue to reflect on oneself

A person's strengths and weaknesses, although the onlookers see more clearly, clear again only one-sided, can be referred to but can not be taken seriously, how to understand is not as good as the person concerned.

It is better to spend more time for yourself alone, to think about where you are not doing well, where you are doing well, and what needs to be improved, step by step to understand yourself.

I have to think about myself three times a day to have a clear perception of myself, so that I have room for progress, and get out of my own life on the ground so that I do not lose myself in the flow.

The world has a thousand kinds of people, ten thousand kinds of things, not as good as things abound, people are not perfect is also the norm, found their shortcomings sometimes do not need to be sad, but worth happy, after all, it means that they have room for progress.

So, if someone says you are bad, there is time to be sad rather than to think about what others say is right or wrong, is the advice, or against the word, is worthy of reference, or not worth listening to.

Advice is good for the ears, some words sound harsh but good for personal progress.

But not all words are advice, if there is no self-judgment, what others say to believe, is undoubtedly a silly.

A person's self-reflection is not only to know themselves but also to improve their judgment so that they become better, and have the right to speak in their own lives.

2, learn to focus on self

The iron pestle and mortar to sharpen the needle, in some people seem to be a miracle, in some people seem to be focused.

In the diverse modern society, full of temptation everywhere, can play too many things, can be quietly too little.

One is restless, one is unable to focus, one is thinking about the outside world, but outwardly runs more diligently, in addition to a moment of pleasure, to their own useless, rather than spend time on improving themselves.

Really smart people know how to focus on themselves, spend time on themselves, to constantly deepen themselves.

Ten minutes of self-focus is more efficient than an hour of pretend effort.

Sometimes, you seem to do a lot of things, the next second to do this thing, the next second busy with that thing, seems to be very busy, very full, but seriously think about it, you will find that you did not complete anything, not as efficient as others focus on one thing to do.

There is time to be blindly busy, it is better to fix time to focus on something, perhaps there will be surprises.

However, some people are used to not focusing, and it is difficult to focus on something for a while, but everything can be slowly tried, from five minutes, ten minutes, fifteen minutes progressively, slowly strengthen their concentration, so that they can focus on something.

Once Li Bai was just a child who loved to play and study, but later he changed and knew that "if you work hard enough, you can grind a mortar and pestle into a needle", so he stopped sneaking out to play and knew how to quietly focus on his studies, and through continuous efforts, he became a famous poet.

Focus on the self, is the process of accumulation, a short period can not see the effect, but over time will be a radical change.

3、Enjoy solitude and sharpen yourself

Growing up is a process of understanding yourself.

During the period, you will encounter an endless stream of temptations, tempting you to give up yourself, but each has its own choice.

Some people are alone and focused on themselves; some go with the flow and lose themselves; some are muddled and confused ......

Some people thought they could become a mansion by climbing into a mansion, but then they realized that only by becoming a mansion can they become a mansion and get the life they want.

Different perceptions, determine the different life directions.

Relying on others, or relying on yourself, is your own choice. Perhaps the road of "rely on yourself" is difficult, but this seems a difficult road is often a shortcut on the road of life, only to learn to enjoy solitude, to hone themselves, to make themselves better, to gain the right to say things in life.

Although the time spent alone is boring, but eat the bitterness, is the only way to be a human being, survive the solitude of a person, and constantly hone themselves to enjoy the joy of the bitterness of the sweet.

What is missing in the constant changes of life is not the heat of three minutes, but the persistent effort.

And this effort is hidden in the solitude of a person, a person's solitude, but also the full force of concentration.