The Insidious Trauma Bond: Why Empaths Fall for Narcissists

The possibility of developing a trauma link with a narcissist is a consequence of untreated childhood trauma injuries. The personalities and experiences of the narcissist and the empath are quite similar due to their upbringing. The weakest link in the chain, the narcissist, developed narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as a self-defense mechanism. Because you are more resilient, you are also attention-seeking, have a personality that is addictive, are people-pleasing, and needy, among other characteristics. The distinction lies, of course, in the fact that you are able to experience genuine affection for other individuals while also managing the unpleasant emotions of shame and guilt in a typical manner. You are able to develop as a person during the course of your lifetime. When you connect with individuals that you respect and love, you are attentive to the feedback that you get about those interactions. As a human, you develop in a natural way. In addition, you get knowledge from the triumphs and failures of other individuals. It gives you a more comprehensive perspective, one in which the world, and not just oneself, is intriguing. This is not the case for the individual who suffers from NPD. 

It's the YOK!

As soon as the narcissist and the more resilient individual come face to face, the narcissist will see their own wounds in the empath who is positive and understanding. In this particular instance, attachment trauma is the traumatic event. In order to manipulate the naïve and needy part of you, the narcissist will begin to mimic the behavior of its new acquaintance. If it is okay with you, I will write this as if it were you. The narcissist will create an atmosphere that seems to be secure, with the intention of causing you to develop feelings of romantic attraction for the person you believe you have met. 

Oh, the LINE! 

It is possible that the narcissist would offer a few reasons as to why you need to feel empathy for him. This is because they are aware that this will strike a specific chord inside you. One of the reasons you have a soft place for those who have suffered in life is because you understand how it feels to be in that situation. The desire to save them is something you have. Your ability to think and consider all of the facts in front of you is subordinated to the traumatic experiences you had as a child. When you are dating a narcissist, they will constantly tell you how much they cherish and believe in you. Because of your trauma injuries, you are unable to differentiate between the love you feel for the person you have just met, the love that this person makes you feel for yourself, the love that you feel for the child that your sub-conscience detects within the narcissist, and the love that you feel for the relationship that you are about to encounter. It brings you great joy to know that you are no longer lonely. That you have attachment trauma injuries is something you are unaware of. You are a needy person who is not entirely conscious that you have been injured by trauma, and as a result, you believe that your connection is what you are rather than something that you have. 

This is the SINKER! 

The reign of terror starts when the narcissist, who is the weakest link in the chain, seeks to have you controlled. You will be subjected to a certain amount of abuse, which is determined by how much you are able to psychologically and physically bear. Should you not be indoctrinated into believing that you are a lesser nothing than they themselves are, the narcissist is persuaded that you will depart at some point. The indoctrination process starts. In order to get the desired result, your mental ability will be destroyed to the extent that you will lose both your strength and your self-confidence. You are now confronted with a daily manipulative twist that is continuing, and you are attempting to find out what is going on. The issue is completely incomprehensible, thus it is obvious that you will not be successful in your endeavor. It is only via manipulation that you will become intellectually feeble, more dependent on the narcissist, and more attached to them. The whole plan is designed to weaken you and to bring out the attachment trauma that you had as a kid, allowing it to come out and play, straight into the hands of the narcissist. 

The narcissist is unable to refrain from using manipulative strategies in order to squeeze and draw you further and deeper into the wilderness of your unconscious mind. It is the space that is formed by your fears, your longings, your love, your hopes, and your empathy toward the shattered narcissist. You are no longer able to understand anything. There is only one thing that is crystal apparent to you, and that is the fact that you want the agony to go away, and you are prepared to do everything in order to make that happen. 

You have been enslaved for a considerable amount of time by the symbioses that are comprised of your untreated trauma, the co-dependent narcissistic practices, and the addiction to them returning to you or treating you affectionately. Narcissistic dance is the dance. 

It is necessary for the narcissist to be the one to induce suffering in order for the trauma connection to be activated.