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The Psychology of Living in Your Head
I was at dinner with friends when I realized I had no idea what anyone had been talking about for the last fifteen minutes. They were laughing, animated, fully present in the moment. Meanwhile, I was three conversations deep in my own head—replaying something awkward I'd said two hours ago, planning tomorrow's presentation, and simultaneously worrying about whether I'd come across as distant by not contributing enough to this very conversation I wasn't actually having. My best friend touched my arm. "You okay? You seem a million miles away." She had no idea. I wasn't a million miles away. I was right there at the table, but I was also simultaneously existing in seventeen different mental dimensions, none of which were the present moment. "Sorry," I mumbled. "Just tired." But I wasn't tired. I was just living in my head again. Like always. The Inner World That Never Sleeps For as long as I can remember, my mental life has been louder, more vivid, and more consuming than my actual life. While my body moves through the world—working, eating, talking—my mind is elsewhere, running a constant stream of thoughts, scenarios, conversations, and narratives that never stop. I live in a perpetual state of analysis. Every interaction gets dissected afterward. Every decision gets examined from forty-seven angles. Every feeling gets intellectualized, categorized, and filed away for future rumination. My therapist calls it "being in your head." I call it my default state of existence. Other people seem to just be—they go to the gym and think about the gym. They watch movies and experience the story. They have conversations and stay in those conversations. I go to the gym and plan my entire week. I watch movies and critique the dialogue while simultaneously thinking about my own life's narrative arc. I have conversations while having three other conversations with myself about the conversation I'm supposed to be having. It's exhausting. But it's also the only way I know how to exist. The Architects of Overthinking I wasn't born this way. Or maybe I was, but life certainly reinforced it. Growing up, my household was unpredictable. Not chaotic in an obvious way, but emotionally volatile. I learned early that survival meant prediction—if I could think through every possible scenario, anticipate every reaction, analyze every mood shift, I could stay safe. My mind became my refuge and my fortress. When the outside world felt uncertain, I could retreat inward, where I had complete control. I could replay conversations until I found the "right" response. I could plan futures in meticulous detail. I could create entire worlds that made sense in ways reality never did. School rewarded this tendency. Teachers praised my thoughtfulness, my ability to see multiple perspectives, my rich inner life. "She's an old soul," they'd say. "Very introspective." What they didn't see was that I wasn't choosing introspection. I was trapped in it. The Prison of Possibility Living in your head means living in infinite possibility—and infinite paralysis. Every decision becomes monumental because I can see every potential outcome. Choosing a restaurant requires weighing seventeen variables. Sending a simple email takes an hour because I'm analyzing every word choice, every possible interpretation, every way it could be misunderstood. My partner once joked that I could turn "Should we get pizza tonight?" into an existential crisis. He wasn't wrong. But it's not funny when you're the one drowning in it. When your brain treats every choice like a choose-your-own-adventure book with infinite pages. When you're so busy thinking about living that you forget to actually live. I've missed so much because I was too busy processing it. Sunsets I didn't see because I was ruminating. Conversations I didn't hear because I was rehearsing what I'd say next. Moments of joy that passed me by because I was already analyzing them, trying to capture and preserve them instead of simply experiencing them.
By Ameer Moavia7 days ago in Psyche
My Experience on Silencing Autism
I wanted to do an educational article on something that has recently come up in my attention. I was having lunch with some of my peers - and one of the ladies spoke briefly about someone she provides care for: "You know, so-and-so still is so loud and needs to learn to not make everyone miserable just because she is miserable." The so-and-so is an autistic individual and I wanted to say something then, but bit my tongue.
By The Schizophrenic Mom7 days ago in Psyche
The Psychology of Overthinking at Night
Every night, the same ritual: I turn off the lights, close my eyes, and within minutes, my mind transforms into a courtroom where I'm simultaneously the defendant, prosecutor, and judge—and I'm always found guilty. It's 2:47 AM, and I'm mentally replaying a conversation from three days ago. Not an important conversation. Not a fight or a confrontation. Just a casual exchange with a coworker where I said something that might have sounded stupid. Probably didn't. But might have. My mind dissects every word, every pause, every facial expression I can remember. What did she mean when she said "interesting"? Was that genuine interest or polite dismissal? Did I talk too much? Did I sound arrogant? Should I have asked more questions? Round and round the thoughts spiral, each loop adding new layers of anxiety, new evidence of my social incompetence, new reasons why everyone probably thinks I'm insufferable. By 3:30 AM, I've catastrophized that one unremarkable conversation into proof that I'm about to be fired, that I have no real friends, that I'm fundamentally unlikeable and everyone's just been too polite to tell me. By 4:00 AM, I'm mentally composing an apology email for something that probably didn't even register as awkward to anyone but me. This is my nightly reality. And I know I'm not alone. The Midnight Court There's something uniquely cruel about the thoughts that arrive after midnight. They're not the same thoughts that visit during daylight hours. They're darker, meaner, more convincing. During the day, I can recognize irrational anxiety for what it is. I can talk myself down, use coping strategies, distract myself with work or conversation or movement. But at night, alone in the dark with nothing but my thoughts, those same anxieties become undeniable truths. The rational part of my brain goes offline, and suddenly every fear seems valid, every worst-case scenario seems inevitable, every mistake I've ever made seems unforgivable. I've replayed conversations from twenty years ago. I've worried about things that haven't happened yet and probably never will. I've mentally prepared for catastrophes that exist only in my imagination. I've solved problems that don't need solving and created problems that don't exist. My husband sleeps peacefully beside me while I lie awake, convinced that some minor misstep I made during the day has irreparably damaged my entire life. "Why do you do this?" he asked once, after finding me crying at 3 AM about something I couldn't even articulate. "Why do you torture yourself like this?" I didn't have an answer then. But I do now. The Science of the Spiral Our brains are fundamentally different at night. This isn't just psychological—it's biological. As my therapist explained it, the prefrontal cortex—the part of your brain responsible for rational thinking, perspective, and emotional regulation—starts to power down as you get tired. Meanwhile, the amygdala, your brain's fear center, stays wide awake. It's like the adult supervisor leaving a room full of anxious children. Without the rational brain to provide context and perspective, your anxieties run wild, unchecked by logic or reason. Add to this the fact that nighttime naturally triggers our evolutionary threat-detection systems. For thousands of years, darkness meant vulnerability. Our ancestors who stayed alert at night, scanning for predators and dangers, were more likely to survive. We've inherited those vigilant, worried nighttime brains. But instead of scanning for predators, we scan our memories for social threats, professional failures, relationship problems, and existential fears. The isolation of night amplifies everything. During the day, we're distracted by a thousand stimuli—work, conversations, movement, light, noise. At night, there's just you and your thoughts. No distractions, no escape, nowhere to hide from the anxieties you've been outrunning all day. The Anxiety I've Carried I can trace my nighttime overthinking back to childhood, to nights spent lying awake listening to my parents fight, trying to predict whether the argument would escalate, rehearsing what I'd do if things got worse. I learned to be hypervigilant at night. To problem-solve in the dark. To mentally prepare for catastrophes while everyone else slept peacefully. That hypervigilance never left. Even though I'm safe now, even though there's no real threat, my brain still performs the same nightly ritual: scan for dangers, replay interactions for hidden meanings, prepare for worst-case scenarios. By the time I was thirty, nighttime overthinking had become so routine I barely questioned it. I thought everyone spent hours awake analyzing their day, worrying about tomorrow, catastrophizing about everything that could go wrong. It wasn't until my doctor suggested my chronic insomnia might be anxiety-related that I realized: this wasn't normal. This was my nervous system stuck in a loop, treating everyday life like a constant threat. The Topics That Haunt Us The content of nighttime overthinking follows predictable patterns. We don't lie awake thinking about our successes or the things that went well. We fixate on: Social interactions. Every conversation becomes evidence of our inadequacy. "Why did I say that? What did they think? Did I sound stupid? Do they hate me now?" Past mistakes. Things we did years ago, mistakes we've already apologized for, embarrassments that probably no one else even remembers—they all resurface at 2 AM with fresh urgency. Future catastrophes. Our minds spin elaborate disaster scenarios. What if I lose my job? What if my partner leaves? What if I get sick? What if everything falls apart? Existential dread. Who am I? What's the point? Am I wasting my life? Have I made all the wrong choices? Physical symptoms. A headache becomes a brain tumor. Fatigue becomes a serious illness. Every bodily sensation becomes potential evidence of imminent death. The darkness amplifies everything, stripping away the perspective and proportion that daylight provides. A minor awkwardness becomes social catastrophe. A small worry becomes existential crisis. The Exhausting Performance What makes nighttime overthinking so damaging isn't just the lost sleep—it's the way it bleeds into the next day. I'd wake up exhausted, my mind still heavy with the previous night's anxieties. I'd drag myself through the day, caffeine-fueled and barely present, already dreading the moment I'd have to go to bed again and face another night of mental torture. The overthinking created a vicious cycle. The anxiety kept me awake, which made me more tired, which made my prefrontal cortex even less effective the next night, which led to even worse overthinking. I started avoiding sleep. I'd stay up late scrolling my phone, watching TV, doing anything to delay the moment I'd have to turn off the lights and face my thoughts. Which of course made everything worse. My relationships suffered. I'd be irritable and withdrawn, too exhausted to be present. My work suffered—it's hard to focus during the day when you've spent the night catastrophizing about everything that could go wrong. But the worst part was the shame. I felt weak for not being able to control my own thoughts. I felt ridiculous for losing sleep over things that seemed so trivial in the morning. I felt alone, convinced that everyone else had figured out how to turn off their brains at night while I remained broken. The Breaking Point The crisis came during a particularly bad week when I'd averaged maybe three hours of sleep a night. I was sitting in a meeting at work, and my boss asked me a direct question. My mind went completely blank. I couldn't remember where I was or what we were discussing. I excused myself, went to the bathroom, and had a panic attack in a stall. This couldn't continue. The nighttime overthinking wasn't just stealing my sleep—it was stealing my life. That afternoon, I called a therapist who specialized in anxiety and insomnia. "Tell me about your nights," she said. I described the spiral—the replaying of conversations, the catastrophizing, the inability to shut my brain off, the shame of lying awake while everyone else slept peacefully. "You're not broken," she said. "Your brain is doing exactly what anxious brains do at night. But we can teach it something different." The Work of Quieting the Mind Healing nighttime overthinking wasn't about thinking my way out of it—it was about changing my relationship with my thoughts. My therapist taught me that thoughts at 3 AM aren't truth—they're just thoughts, colored by fatigue, darkness, and an offline prefrontal cortex. I didn't need to believe them or solve them. I just needed to acknowledge them and let them pass. We practiced cognitive defusion—learning to observe my thoughts without getting caught in them. Instead of "I'm going to get fired," I'd think "I'm having the thought that I'm going to get fired." Small shift, massive difference. It created space between me and the anxiety. I learned the "worry window" technique—setting aside 15 minutes during the day to deliberately worry about everything on my mind. When nighttime anxieties appeared, I could tell myself, "Already addressed this during worry time. Moving on." I established a wind-down routine that signaled to my nervous system that it was safe to sleep. No screens for an hour before bed. Gentle stretching. Reading something light. Making my bedroom a sanctuary rather than a courtroom. I practiced grounding techniques when the spiral started. Five things I could see, four I could touch, three I could hear. Counting breaths. Anything to bring me back to the present moment instead of the catastrophic future my mind was creating. The Unexpected Discoveries As I worked on the nighttime overthinking, I started noticing patterns. The spiral was worst on days when I'd ignored my feelings, when I'd pushed through stress without acknowledging it, when I'd said yes when I meant no. The nighttime overthinking wasn't random. It was my psyche's way of processing things I hadn't dealt with during the day. All the feelings I'd stuffed down, all the concerns I'd dismissed, all the stress I'd tried to outrun—it all surfaced at night when my defenses were down. I started addressing things in real-time instead of stockpiling them for the 3 AM review. If a conversation bothered me, I'd process it during the day instead of waiting for my exhausted nighttime brain to catastrophize it. If I was stressed, I'd acknowledge it instead of pretending I was fine. The less I suppressed during the day, the less my brain had to process at night.
By Ameer Moavia8 days ago in Psyche
The Night I Understood Football
I didn’t go to the game expecting hope. It was a cold November Thursday. My brother had just lost his job. My nephew hadn’t spoken in days after a school incident. The world felt heavy, and the last thing I wanted was to watch a mismatch—our hometown team facing a dynasty that hadn’t lost in months.
By KAMRAN AHMAD9 days ago in Psyche
When Love Feels Like Anxiety
Caleb loved Iris so much he couldn't sleep. Not in the romantic, staying-up-talking-all-night way. In the lying-awake-at-3-a.m.-heart-racing-mind-spiraling way. In the checking-his-phone-every-five-minutes-when-she-didn't-text-back way. In the can't-eat-can't-focus-can't-function-unless-he-knew-she-still-loved-him way. People said he was in love. And maybe he was. But it didn't feel like the love depicted in movies or described in songs. It felt like standing at the edge of a cliff, constantly terrified of falling. It felt like his entire nervous system was wired to one person, and if she withdrew even slightly, his whole world collapsed. It felt, more than anything, like anxiety. They'd been dating for eight months, and Caleb had never felt this way about anyone. He thought about Iris constantly. Needed to know where she was, who she was with, whether she was thinking about him. When they were together, he felt euphoric. When they were apart, he felt like he was suffocating. "You're so intense," Iris said one evening after he'd texted her fourteen times because she hadn't responded for two hours. "I was just at dinner with my sister. I'm allowed to not text you for a few hours." "I know. I'm sorry. I just... I worry when I don't hear from you." "Worry about what?" Caleb couldn't articulate it. That he worried she'd realize he wasn't enough. That she'd meet someone better. That she'd wake up one day and wonder why she was with him. That every moment she wasn't actively choosing him felt like she might be about to leave. "I don't know," he said instead. "I just love you a lot." But it didn't feel like love. It felt like drowning while pretending to swim.
By Ameer Moavia11 days ago in Psyche
The Kuntilanak Files
Indonesia is a country where the modern world never fully erased the old one. Glass towers rise beside centuries-old banyan trees. Smartphones glow in villages where spirits are still spoken of in whispers. In many parts of the archipelago, the supernatural is not dismissed—it is managed, respected, avoided. Among these beliefs, few names carry as much fear as Kuntilanak. Traditionally, the Kuntilanak is described as the spirit of a woman who died during childbirth—her grief twisting into something violent and restless. Pale-faced, long-haired, dressed in white, she is said to appear at night, often announced by the sound of soft laughter or a baby crying. In folklore, she haunts forests, abandoned houses, and roadside trees. She is not a metaphor. She is a warning. For generations, these stories remained where stories usually belong: around fires, in village advice, in cautionary tales meant to keep children close to home after dark. Until the deaths began. In the late 2000s and early 2010s, a pattern emerged across parts of Java, Kalimantan, and Sumatra that unsettled even seasoned investigators. The cases were not identical, but they echoed one another in troubling ways. Young men—often students, amateur paranormal investigators, or urban explorers—were found dead near abandoned locations tied to Kuntilanak lore. At first, authorities treated each death separately. Accidents. Exposure. Falls. Natural causes compounded by risky behavior. But local communities noticed something else. The locations were wrong. The timing was wrong. And the behavior of the victims before death was… off. One of the earliest widely discussed cases involved a university student in West Java who had joined a small group dedicated to documenting haunted sites for social media. Their goal was not worship or provocation—at least publicly—but proof. They filmed night visits to abandoned houses, cemeteries, and forest edges. Their content gained traction. Fear, after all, travels well online. According to friends, the student began experiencing disturbances weeks before his death. Sleep paralysis. Nightmares involving a woman laughing behind him. Sudden mood shifts. He became withdrawn, irritable, convinced that something was “following” him. They assumed stress. One night, he returned alone to an abandoned colonial-era building rumored to be a Kuntilanak site. His camera was later found intact. The footage ended abruptly, mid-sentence, as if he had turned suddenly toward a sound. His body was discovered the next morning beneath a staircase. There were no defensive wounds. No signs of assault. The autopsy cited internal injuries consistent with a fall. But the locals focused on something else. His face, witnesses said, was frozen in terror. More cases followed. In Central Java, two young men were found dead in a forest clearing after attempting a ritual they had read about online—one meant to “summon” or “record” paranormal entities. One died at the scene. The other survived long enough to be hospitalized, where he reportedly screamed about a woman sitting on his chest at night. He died three days later from organ failure. Doctors could not link the deaths to toxins or known disease. Stress-induced complications were mentioned. The files closed quietly. But the stories did not. By this point, Indonesian social media had already connected the dots. Videos surfaced showing shadowy figures, unexplained sounds, distorted faces caught in reflections. Most were easily debunked. Some were not. Then came the Kalimantan case that changed the tone entirely. A group of construction workers clearing land near a long-abandoned village reported nightly disturbances. Tools moved. Voices heard. One worker fled the site claiming a woman in white followed him through the trees. Days later, another worker was found dead near a large fig tree. No visible injuries. No signs of struggle. The project was halted after elders from a nearby village intervened, insisting the land was known Kuntilanak territory and had been avoided for decades. This was no longer just internet folklore. Authorities were placed in an impossible position. Acknowledge supernatural causation and risk panic—or reduce everything to coincidence and offend deeply held cultural beliefs. Official explanations remained clinical. Accidents. Psychological stress. Mass suggestion. Environmental hazards. Privately, some investigators admitted discomfort. What made the Kuntilanak Files different from typical ghost stories was the consistency of behavior before death. Victims reported similar experiences across regions that did not share immediate cultural circles. Nightmares. Pressure on the chest. The sensation of being watched. A fixation on returning to specific locations. Psychologists proposed sleep paralysis combined with cultural expectation—a known phenomenon where the mind fills terror with familiar symbols. But that explanation weakens when the final outcomes are fatal. No drugs. No poisons. No physical attackers. Just bodies and fear. The Indonesian government never officially linked the cases. But internally, some law enforcement documents reportedly advised officers to consult local religious leaders when dealing with deaths tied to supernatural belief systems. Not for investigation—but for prevention. The advice was simple: Don’t provoke what you don’t understand. In traditional belief, the Kuntilanak is not mindless. She appears when disturbed. When mocked. When summoned without respect. Modern behavior—cameras, flashlights, viral challenges—violates every boundary these stories were meant to enforce. This clash between digital bravado and ancient taboo may be the true heart of the mystery. Whether the Kuntilanak exists as a literal entity or as a psychological weapon shaped by belief, the outcome is the same. People died. And they died believing something was with them in their final moments. Today, many of the most notorious sites are quietly avoided. Content creators move on to safer myths. Elders still warn travelers not to laugh at night near certain trees. Not because they expect outsiders to believe—but because belief is not required for consequences. The Kuntilanak Files remain open, unofficially. Not because science failed. But because some questions refuse to stay within neat categories. In Indonesia, the past does not sleep easily. And some legends, when dragged into the light, do not fade— they follow.
By The Insight Ledger 13 days ago in Psyche
Dialogues Across Time. AI-Generated.
I feel we are at the corner of something revolutionary and yet evolutionarily necessitated. Some psychologists acknowledge only the past century as a time for our field when it has been alive and well, but giving credit to the late Charles Darwin means first acknowledging the agencies that formed out of novel curiosity, which would eventually call the field home. Psychology evolves, sometimes quickly, but the questions at its core remain the same.
By Inner Terrain w/ Daniel Chapmanabout a month ago in Psyche
The Town That Forgot to Dream. AI-Generated.
Riverbank, population 387, had exactly one traffic light, two churches, and zero reasons for anyone under thirty to stay. Grace Holloway knew this because she'd watched ninety-two percent of her high school graduating class leave and never return. The ambitious ones went to college and found careers in cities with actual opportunities. The realistic ones took jobs in nearby towns with functioning economies. The unlucky ones stayed in Riverbank, working at the gas station or the diner, watching their dreams shrink to fit the town's limitations.
By The 9x Fawdiabout a month ago in Psyche
Conversational Menu
Are questions a key to create deeper listening and comprehension? Are questions a key to create clearer articulation and expression? Are questions a key to create stronger communion and connection? Are questions a key to recreate our conversational and relational reality?
By We the PPULabout a month ago in Psyche
The Loud Minority and the Manufactured Narrative
When President Trump appeared at the Washington Commanders versus Detroit Lions game, the media wasted no time turning it into a national spectacle. Headlines shouted that America had booed its own president, declaring it proof that the country was ashamed of its leader. Clips of jeering crowds were shared endlessly, accompanied by commentary claiming that even America’s favorite sport had rejected him.
By Peter Thwing - Host of the FST Podcast2 months ago in Psyche
What I’ve Learned Since I Escaped Domestic Violence Twice. Content Warning.
(Trigger warning: This article covers the topic of domestic violence. If you or someone you know needs help, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline for help https://www.thehotline.org/ 1–800–799–7233)
By Kristine Franklin2 months ago in Psyche
How a mushroom trip led me to discover I’m actually left-handed. Content Warning.
One day, out of nowhere, I discovered I could write with my left hand. Throughout my life, I had written with my right hand. There was a strange indicator that something was off. As a child, I would help my grandma with dishes; she would randomly ask if I was actually left-handed. At this point, I didn’t think much of it. When I became an adult, I would occasionally remember her bringing it up. She had dementia at the end of her life. I had taken that question to be a part of the disease. Years have passed, as has she, so I will never get to ask her about it. However, last May, I was high on mushrooms, leading me to, for some reason, try writing with my left hand. My handwriting was nicer than my right hand. I was 38 years old when this happened.
By Kristine Franklin2 months ago in Psyche
