My Safe Place

My safe place is in my head. And even here it’s scary at times. But I can try to push away the negative thoughts and when they seem to be gone, they’re still there in the deepest recesses of my mind. But they’re is only one thing that keeps my mind at bay. Not the nicotine from the vape, not the savory endeavors of greasy food, but just the idea of staying in love. All relationships have their struggles followed by ups and downs. When you first start out in a relationship, you’re in the honeymoon phase. The honeymoon phase can last for months up to years, in a really compatible relationship. One reason many people may only experience the honeymoon phase for a short time, is because when they first got together they were already in love with the idea of love. Many people have their fairytale fantasies, but they’re just that, fantasies. Except for the rare occasions where a couple have been happily married for over 50 years, what is they’re secret? Well for starters every person and relationship is different. What you have learned from one relationship may not be able to be carried over into your next or future relationships.

Love is the best feeling in the world, if you listen correctly. This is a rare occasion where you cannot listen to your head too much. If your heart's not in the same place as your mind, then you’re set up for failure. If you settle for someone because they have money or you only like certain attributes about that person. The hardships you go through with your partner will seem more agonizing. Then that is where the problems will arise and you will start to notice flaws in your partner. Noticing flaws in your partner is the first sign that your honeymoon phase is wearing off. Then you get hit with the reality of who the person really is. The reason why certain relationships can last for 50 years is because their honeymoon phase never wore off. Imagine feeling the euphoria and simple bliss of your partner constantly. Realizing even when they make you mad, your mind never thinks anything bad about them. But those 50 year relationships are very rare nowadays because people get discouraged for following their heart.

You know you truly love someone when money and lifestyle doesn’t come into factor for their love for you. People usually are attracted to people who make them feel good. And that is what love is all about. But simply just loving someone is not that same as being in love. Even though being in love usually comes first before true love. Being in love is what is constantly keeping your Dopamine, Serotonin and Oxytocin levels elevated, keeping your mind in a blissful state of euphoria. So if you’re not finding your partner attractive anymore or if every little thing they do bothers you. But you can still feel their pain and you never want to hurt them, then you obviously love that person. But when you think about them, does your heart race? Do they make your stomach flutter? Do you want to look good for them? Is your future with them bright? These questions could be a little damaging, so take precautions on your heart.

My safe place is my heart's idea of true love. So the safest place you can be is in your head, but don’t get stuck in it. Don’t get to the place where you’re sitting in the dark and wondering what your next step will be. You are your own worst enemy. The mind is a powerful place. But that is where true love comes into play. The love hormones are there to protect you. So follow your heart and stay out of your head, unless it’s filled with euphoria.