Live a happy life or not from your thoughts

Nowadays, many people are living a painful life, and the pain often depends on the mapping of our inner world, because we don't understand the nature of life and the truth of life, so it produces pain.

When we understand our life with our heart and look at our thoughts with our heart, you may understand that it is often the thoughts that hurt us, and when we can see the world from the world of thoughts, we will live our life better and better.

First, the world is here to fulfill you

Many people think that life is painful, but in reality, it is not the life that is painful, but your thoughts. Your thoughts think the world is painful, and your life is only painful.

But the world depends ultimately on your thoughts. If you stop running away from pain and accept it, the pain is often not so painful.

What is painful is that we tend to see the world with the children of our inner minds, and naturally, all kinds of problems arise. To live an advanced life, you must understand that the world is here to fulfill you.

When you read that the world is here to fulfill you, you will understand that the most important thing you can do is find your determination and learn to truly accept yourself.

The reason why we suffer is often that we are used to living out ourselves according to the world's standards, but we forget that we are also unique individuals, and what we need is to respect the wisdom and rhythm in ourselves, so then we can live out the best version of ourselves.

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Second, there is give and take, everything is one and two sides

Everything has two sides, good and bad are two sides, and blessings and disasters are two sides. When you understand that things are on one and two sides, you may understand the wisdom of the middle ground.

Nothing can be overdone. The truth of life is the same, pain and joy are the same, when you are in pain and you reject the pain, then you may also miss the gift behind the pain.

So by enjoying pain, you travel through it, touch the truth of it, and see that pain is also the best gift of growth given to us.

If everything in life was smooth sailing, we might not grow and be grateful for what we have. Everything is two sides of the same coin, and surrender goes together.

For example, if you want to have intimacy, you have to learn to love people, not just ask them to love you. We want to be in good shape, so we have to resist temptation when it comes to food.

If you want to have an adventurous life, then you have to give up the 9 to 5 life. What you want, you have to give up.

So everything in life grows from balance, and that balance means that everything in our life is good, everything is there to help us explore and explore ourselves.

When you can look at things from both sides, you gain the ability to follow the mind. So everything in life is positive and negative, and the most important thing is that you ask yourself what you need most.

When you know what you need, you may understand that a good life comes from our willingness to make efforts and struggle for what we need.

Of course, what we need is different at each stage, and we need to plan a good time for these things so that we can embrace the real world.

Third, take responsibility for your life and be responsible for your life

Why is it that thoughts are powerful? When a person is in a world of avoidance, afraid to take responsibility for his life, thinking that the world is too scary, then his life will always be in a world of avoidance, he may be afraid of socializing, and his ability to survive will be worrying.

Life is a continuous growth process, avoidance of our growth is always painful, and the choice to grow is the key to our ability to continue to be strong, but also we have accumulated a good survival advantage.

Life is ultimately to lose, we are not in escape, afraid to try anything, it is better to use their lives, the limited decades of light of hundreds of years to live out what they want, not in vain their life experience, but also the best earn.

The best life practice is to use life continuously. Cherishing life is not to let us become greenhouse flowers every day, the biggest meaning of cherishing life is to let us use life, and in the process of using life, experience the inner iteration and growth of self.

Cherishing life also makes us realize that our inner potential is huge, and if we don't use it, we will never be able to grow and progress significantly.

Fourth, learn to treat life with the end in mind and live from death

We have always avoided talking about life and death, thinking that death is taboo. Life and death are not scary. Many people are afraid of death precisely because they do not know the true meaning of death.

That's why I sometimes talk about death with my children. When I talk about death with my children, I tell them solemnly that death is something that will happen to everyone, no matter how early or late it is, and that death is a reminder of the meaning of life.

If you want to do things as early as possible, you may understand when you die one day, but there is a way to live called life to death.

Steve Jobs once said, treat yourself every day as your last day to live, you will find your mission, you will work hard to do what, when one day you know how to continue to grow, then your inner mind will gradually mature.

The essence of life is to continue to grow, moreover to live your best self, and this means finding the way you want to live and experience your whole life to the fullest, when you have this kind of mind to face to the fullest, then your life will be full of the tension of growth.