If you can't learn to forget, life will not continue

Some people's insomnia is self-inflicted, once the night can not help but lament their misfortune, lamenting the work is not easy, the more you think about the more you can not sleep.

However, thinking more can not change reality, and continue to let themselves be entangled with pain, only to make their lives more painful.

Balzac once said, "If you learn not to forget, life will not continue."

Who will not encounter one or two bad things in life, if everything is entangled, it will undoubtedly make you suffer day after day, constantly reminding yourself of what pain you have experienced.

A person living too tired, often from the memory is too good to learn to forget the pain, only to continue with the past entangled.

So, if you want to move forward in life, you have to learn to forget.

1. Carry the "past" and make things difficult for yourself

People live, there is nothing that can not pass, just do not dare to face it, habitually give themselves excuses to escape, but do not dare to face the suffering that has become the past.

A person entangled in the past, can not walk away from the pain and is undoubtedly torturing themselves, trapped in a dead end.

As they say, "once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of a good rope", the sequelae of trauma are often more serious than imagined, and escaping will only deepen the memory, and facing can change oneself.

The more you are afraid, the easier it is to hold on to the pain and let it increase day by day, becoming a stumbling block that prevents you from moving forward.

I have a friend, always shy to speak, afraid to open their mouth to offend people and a stranger with a mute like afraid to speak.

Others think he is cold and does not like to take care of people, only friends familiar with him know that he used to be very smiley and talkative, but later some people "hit" to dare not speak: "You're a duck voice.

"You have a duck's voice, how do you have the courage to speak"

"A big man so talkative, like a woman"

"Everyday talks incessantly, do not know will be noisy others?"

......

It was a pain that he did not dare to recall but only step by step guide to face, now than before has been much better, at least dare to speak.

Perhaps through slow diversion, one day he will be able to let go of the pain and come out of it to be his true self.

Let the past become the past, let yourself come out of it, to embrace your happiness.

2. Let go of the past and free yourself

Life is not easy, everyone will encounter the trials and tribulations of the wasted.

Some people have since become degenerate, towards the valley of life, some have since become more and more courageous, towards the peak of life ...... each has their own choice, each has their future.

The choice is more important than the effort.

Some people try hard on the wrong path, can not get what they want, and think they can go back to the past and start over, but do not know that entanglement in the past is to draw a prison to trap themselves.

Instead of continuing to dwell on the past, it is better to look to the future and create a happy life of your own.

Many times, you think you can't get over things, as long as the first step is brave, then the rest of the road will not be so difficult to walk, and the so-called can't get over will also become the past.

For example, if someone hurt you, you keep in mind, thinking to wait for the opportunity to retaliate, but did not want to spend their good years in retaliation, in the dark spying on others better and better.

There is time to retaliate against others, rather than to improve themselves.

Sometimes, you live better than your enemies in the best revenge, so he can only look up to you day by day better.

Put down the past, instead of letting go of the enemy, it is better to let go of yourself, so that you get relief from the pain.

So, life is a long road, want to go farther and farther, we must learn to put down the past, and free ourselves so that we go faster with a light load.