How can we have a strong and optimistic heart?

When we face difficulties and challenges, what we lack is not a serious attitude, but the spirit of letting go.

Every time I am anxious, compared, blamed, miserable, inferior, dissatisfied with reality, or when I take one thing or a person too important, I will tell myself this,

Life is actually a game. When I thought about this, I began to understand that I shouldn't take the small emotions and setbacks on the road too seriously, even though these things seem to be fatal at the moment.

For example, I have encountered difficulties at work recently, I have no inspiration for writing, I am behind in work progress, and I am under great psychological pressure. For example, the relationship is not smooth, the daily routine is irregular, and I gain a few pounds. Sometimes I feel that my body is hollowed out due to lack of sleep.

At the moment, these things are enough to make me feel guilty and distressed, feel that the future is gloomy, and I am full of great resentment and dissatisfaction with life. However, when I think about it calmly, I realize that these temporary emotions and pains are adjustable, and these are some of the slightly bitter flavors of life.

Sometimes, we are so indulged in our roles that we forget that life is actually a game, no one wins, no one wins, no one wins, no one wins, everyone's game will end eventually, and no one cares about you when it ends When playing games, I won a few houses, bought a few cars, and was a rich man or a beggar. The key is at the end, your self-feeling, your self-evaluation, this is the most important, even if others envy your character and equipment, but you alone think you have failed this game, there is no doubt about that. , you are a failure.

As Shakespeare said,

On the big stage of the world, all men and women are nothing but actors.

In fact, life is a game. When you start thinking this way, you can have a very good frame of mind, and a strong heart. Because you know that no matter what happens, the sky won't fall.

The so-called pain and frustration are only divided into two types,

One is temporary emotion, one is real pain.

However, 95% of the pain in life, that is, the things that you worry about every day now, are just temporary unhappiness, emotions that can be easily overcome.

But there is another kind of real pain. When facing real pain, you need to take the attitude of being in the game, encountering gods to kill gods, and demons to kill demons, and fearlessly welcome every life in your life. challenge. Because you understand that those things that really make you miserable, as long as you overcome them, you will be reborn and become a stronger self, just like fighting monsters and upgrading in the game.

you have to realize,

The time when you are most miserable is when you are about to level up.

Each of us has our own character and equipment in hand, and the configuration and character you get is your destiny, which cannot be changed. You can't say that I'm playing my own game, but watching someone else's game is more exciting and wanting to play someone else's role, it's impossible.

For myself, my goal in playing this game is very clear, that is, to fully enjoy the process, so that I have the right to choose the equipment I like in this game, choose the opponent I want to challenge, and constantly upgrade myself. , and finally be able to fight the ultimate big Boss.

However, in the process, I figured out a very important point: whether I can fight the ultimate big boss in the end, how many equipment I won in the middle, and how many opponents I won. Although these are important in the process, they are not. Most important.

So what's the most important thing?

It's my own inner feelings, it's my final evaluation of myself.

When I recognize all my choices in this game, and think that I have exerted my subjective initiative, tried my best, exerted my potential, and demonstrated my value, then this game will be the ultimate boss, whether I play or not. Undoubtedly, it was a success, because I recognized my choice, and I have no regrets or regrets. I think this game is worth it. It's not a waste of time. This is actually the best result, and it has nothing to do with whether I hit the ultimate boss It doesn't matter.

So, I began to understand that life is a game, and the outcome is not so important, but self-feeling and self-evaluation are very important.

However, to achieve ultimate self-recognition, you must be able to choose (any will that is imposed on you is not yours, because eventually you will regret not choosing according to your own); you must work hard enough, you must Persevere; you must be able to endure the pain, you must be wise enough;

the most important is,

You have to satisfy yourself, not others.

so,

When I finally see life as a game,

I don't take temporary losses or wins too seriously,

Because I understand that these are just clouds.

When I finally see life as a game,

I will do my best to fight, to kill, to level up,

Because I understand that the most important thing is not the result, but myself.

When I finally see life as a game,

There are negative voices all around me, I have nothing to fear,

Because I understand that the recognition I need most in my heart comes from myself.

When I finally see life as a game,

I became hard, firm, and calm,

Because I understand that I don't need approval from others, I just need self-affirmation.

When I finally see life as a game,

I started to be mentally strong and super optimistic,

Because I know what I want.

While reading Elon Musk's autobiography, I saw this sentence, which made a deep memory in my memory,

No one is an island unless he is strong and super optimistic.

I love this quote, not because I want to be an island, but because inner strength and super optimism are the qualities I love the most.

I also remembered another saying that I like very much,

As long as you don't depend on others, no one can let you down.

When I am provoked by an unpleasant thing or person, when I complain about others, the environment, and feel that others hurt my feelings, I will silently recite this sentence in my heart, as long as you do not rely on others, no one can make you are disappointed.

Miraculously, when I meditate on this sentence, the anger and pain in my heart will gradually calm down. When the disappointment completely subsided, when I started to look at the situation just now with a positive attitude, I began to understand that the most important thing is not what happened to you in reality, but the mentality of how you look at the event that determines your life. of happiness.

A person with a strong heart, even if he encounters a bad blow, will treat it with an optimistic and positive attitude. Such a person can regard the unacceptable failure of others as an opportunity and motivation for growth, learn enough lessons from it, and continue to improve. yourself, and thus become a stronger self.

And a person with a weak heart, even if he obtains the luck that falls from the sky, he will not be blessed to suffer such luck, because he is afraid that the luck at this moment will be fleeting, so he is worried about gains and losses, and he is in awe.

A person with a strong heart will not care too much about the evaluation of others, and will follow the guidance of his heart to realize his inner desire. A cowardly person will only succumb to the will of others and pursue the approval of others. In the end, he finds that he has been pursuing what others have told him, but has forgotten what he really wants.

It turns out that a person's attitude towards the world is more important than the world itself.

So what does it take to become a strong and optimistic person?

Treat life as a game, Don't be too serious.

That way, you'll have more courage to try things you've been thinking about for a long time but haven't dared to do. You will not be too afraid to face a bad outcome, because you know that no one can judge your life, only you can judge.

Too many people take some small wins and losses in life too seriously. A failure in an exam or promotion can make their life darker and lose the original fun and meaning of life.

Too many people simply do not have the spirit of doing their best, being fearless, and eager to fight monsters and upgrade in the game to face the challenges in life.

However, when a person can finally treat an overly serious life as a game, then it may not be as difficult as imagined to become strong and optimistic, but it becomes a very simple matter.