Checking For Signs of Emotional Abuse
Are You Experiencing the Red Flags?
And signs of emotional abuse you try to hide
Manipulating words, and controlling ways,
Making you feel like you are here to stay
No choice, no voice, no sense of pride,
These signs of emotional abuse won’t subside
No matter what you do and say,
Your feelings don’t seem to sway
No sign of love, no sign of care,
It’s just emotional abuse that’s in the air
No confidence in yourself, no will to fight,
No way to express your plight
Locked away in a cage of fear,
These signs of emotional abuse are so clear
No matter where you’re from or who you’re with,
You can’t seem to escape this prison that’s built
No one to help, no one to hear,
You are left with these signs of emotional abuse clear
Your fear, your pain, your sorrow, your strife,
It’s all hidden, away from the light
Seemingly no one there to care,
These signs of emotional abuse just won’t disappear
No more strength, no more will,
You’re no longer able to stand still
Everything is sadness and despair,
These signs of emotional abuse won’t let you repair
No way to love, to trust, to feel,
The darkness is consuming what’s real
The pain is so deep, no matter where,
These signs of emotional abuse are everywhere
No way out, no escape, no reprieve,
You’re stuck in this nightmare of distress and grieve
The cycle of abuse is so hard to bear,
These signs of emotional abuse won’t disappear
No more hope, no more joy,
It’s all been taken away, your inner voice destroyed
Your spirit is broken, your heart filled with despair,
These signs of emotional abuse won’t let you repair
No faith, no trust, no sign of love,
It’s like you’re stuck in a dark and lonely glove
No chance to get out and be free,
These signs of emotional abuse won’t let you be
No more light, no more faith,
You’re lost in a world of hurt and hate
Your soul is broken, so hard to bear,
These signs of emotional abuse just won’t disappear
No more dreams, no more life,
It’s like you’re in a world of strife
You’re constantly surrounded by fear and despair,
These signs of emotional abuse just won’t go away
No way to live, to breathe, to hope,
Your life has become a never-ending slope
No way out from this nightmare you’re in,
These signs of emotional abuse just won’t end
No more life, no more dreams,
Your life is filled with silent screams
Your heart is broken, your soul filled with fear,
These signs of emotional abuse won’t disappear
No more strength, no more will,
It’s like you’re completely still
No way out from this place of despair,
These signs of emotional abuse are everywhere
When someone is pretending to care
They show love on the outside, but they truly don't share
No matter what feelings you evoke
The person remains in control, which is a crucial red flag to note.
They may try and keep you down, saying you're not good enough
Or maybe their words cut like a puff of cold air and are just gruff
The physical scars may heal over time
But the emotional scars will stay, now that's a real crime.
Know this truth without fail: you are strong and capable
And most of all, always remember to be kind to yourself- that's all that really matters in every single life cycle
The need to be the one who's shown
The right to choose and to decide
About the Creator
Som Dutt
Author & certified coach specializing in covert narcissism, NPD, and narcissistic abuse recovery, with 7+ years of experience guiding 1,400+ survivors. @ Embrace Inner Chaos
Read my blog on https://embraceinnerchaos.com
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Your story was truly inspiring, and I'm grateful to you for taking the time to share it with us. Your writing really spoke to me, and I'm excited to see what else you have in store for us in the future.