Are You Dealing With Burnout?
A Common Trait in Today's Fast-Paced World
Hey, how are you doing? How are your stress levels right now?
I’ve been asked to write about “Burnout,” by several people and I listen to my readers. I have been thinking of writing about rising stress levels at work because I see it in my friends and even myself sometimes.
Life can be overwhelming at times with pressure from work and in our personal lives. I feel the pressure too right now because I’m working during the day and writing at night. I fell asleep while writing yesterday, which is the first for me.
This time of year, feels exhausting because there is too much to do. Halloween is coming up, then Thanksgiving and after that, Christmas. Throw in the planning and organizing family members in the mix with daily life and it’s like Minestrone soup.
What is Burnout?
Burnout is a real condition. It’s caused by a state of prolonged stress which manifests itself through many symptoms.
Mental and Emotional
Emotional exhaustion - Feeling drained of energy and not coping.
Cynical and detached - Negative feelings toward your colleagues and estrangement from them.
Lack of achievement - Feeling incompetent and undervalued at work.
Anxious and irritable - Feeling worried, angry and frustrated.
Motivation - No drive to be productive.
Physical symptoms
Chronic tiredness - Having no energy all the time.
Body aches - Frequent headaches like migraines and muscle pains.
Sleep issues - Not able to fall asleep or wake up often during the night.
Stomach and digestion - Stomach pain, nausea, and loss of appetite.
Immune system - Getting sick all the time.
Behavioral symptoms
Performance issues - Not able to work as effectively.
Social issues - Withdrawing from colleagues and social events.
Delays - Avoiding tasks you normally manage.
Substance abuse - Turning to drugs, alcohol, and excessive eating.
Longer hours - Staying behind at work to complete tasks.
Do you see yourself in any of these? If you do, it’s time to act.
Burnout Recovery
If you do recognize yourself in any of the above symptoms, now is the time to act. Your health and your body will thank you for it by making you start feeling better.
1. Switch off from work. Turn off your phone, disconnect from the internet, and see how it feels without the constant ringing, beeps, and glows in your face.
2. Prioritize rest and relaxation.
3. Reach out to people. Tell someone how you feel. In fact, tell more than one person. You might be surprised at the support you get.
4. Get enough sleep at night. Establish a sleep routine and try and do something relaxing without a screen before sleep. Try and get 7-9 hours’ sleep every night.
5. Regular exercise. Moving your body is good to boost your mood and energy.
6. Diet. A good diet is paramount to a healthier lifestyle. What you eat is what you are. All your energy stems from what you put into your body.
7. Deep breathing and yoga. Give it a shot and let me know what you think. Breathwork is something I thought was ridiculous, but I was proven wrong. Now I’m a believer. Get those lungs clear and you will feel better.
8. Boundaries - This is the one I struggle with because I’m too nice. I rarely say “no” to people because I want to help everyone. I’m no fool and I know I can’t do everything. Saying “no” occasionally, will help you clear commitments from your calendar that you can do without.
9. Workload - Think about the hours you spend at work. Is there a way to reduce or delegate some of your tasks?
10. Hobbies - Finding a hobby can do wonders for your stress levels. Think about your skill sets outside of work. What do you enjoy doing? Are you good with your hands like a carpenter or a painter or can you play an instrument?
If your work situation is still untenable and you find those stress levels rising every day, then perhaps you need to rethink your career.
Here is an article about Burnout from Psychology today. Have a read and see what you think. Burnout is serious. Don’t ignore your symptoms.
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/everyday-resilience/202402/5-stages-of-occupational-burnout-assessing-where-you-are#:~:text=Stage%205%3A%20Habitual%20Burnout,bring%20yourself%20back%20to%20baseline.
Whatever you decide to do about your situation, please take good care of yourself. You only have one life and it’s precious. I know exactly what burnout feels like and it’s not a great place to be in.
I wish you peace and happiness in your life. Follow your dreams.
My name is Lizzy. I’m a trauma survivor, a wife, a mom, a teacher, and an author.
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Some automated version of me that knows the script but has forgotten how to mean it. Later, driving home, my husband asks if I'm okay. I almost laugh at the question. Okay? I don't even know what I am. I'm functional, going through every motion of life, completing every task. But I'm not okay. I'm not anything. I'm just empty. The Absence of Everything Depression, I'd always understood, was sadness. Heavy, crushing sadness. The kind that makes you cry, that weighs on your chest, that feels like drowning. This wasn't that. This was absence. A void where feelings used to be. Not darkness, but grayness. Not pain, but numbness. Not drowning, but floating in some liminal space between living and existing. I went to work every day. I had conversations. I laughed at jokes—or at least, I made the laughing sound. I cooked dinner, helped with homework, maintained my house, paid my bills. From the outside, I looked completely functional. But inside, I'd disappeared. The person who used to feel joy, sadness, anger, love, excitement—she was gone. In her place was this hollow thing, performing life without experiencing it. Music that used to move me sounded like organized noise. Food lost all flavor—I ate because I was supposed to, not because I wanted to. Sunsets that once took my breath away barely registered. Touch felt distant, like someone was touching a body I was only vaguely connected to. I wasn't actively suicidal. I didn't want to die. But I also didn't particularly want to be alive. I just... was. Existing without purpose, moving without direction, breathing without really living. The Confusion of Emptiness The worst part was not understanding what was wrong with me. If I were sad, I could name it. If I were anxious, I could identify it. But this? This had no name, no clear symptoms, no obvious cause. "Are you depressed?" my doctor asked during a routine checkup. "I don't think so," I said. "I'm not sad. I'm not crying. I'm managing everything fine." She looked at me for a long moment. "Depression doesn't always look like sadness. Sometimes it looks like emptiness. Like nothing matters. Like you're going through life on autopilot." I stared at her. That was exactly what it felt like. But I'd always thought depression meant being overwhelmed with emotion, not the complete absence of it. "What you're describing sounds like anhedonia," she continued. "The inability to feel pleasure or joy. It's a core symptom of depression, even when you're not actively sad." Anhedonia. A clinical word for the void I'd been living in. For the flatness, the grayness, the nothing. The Origins of the Void In therapy, we started excavating how I'd arrived at this empty place. It hadn't been one thing. It had been accumulation—years of stress, of pushing through, of functioning through crisis after crisis without ever really processing what I was experiencing. My mother's death two years earlier. A job I hated but couldn't leave. A marriage that had become more roommate arrangement than partnership. Financial stress. Parenting challenges. The constant low-grade anxiety of modern life. I'd handled it all. I'd been so strong. Everyone said so. I'd managed every crisis, solved every problem, supported everyone who needed me. But I'd done it by essentially turning off my emotional system. Feelings were inefficient. They slowed me down. They made things harder. So I'd learned to power through them, to override them, to function despite them. Eventually, I'd functioned so well without feelings that my brain apparently decided I didn't need them anymore. The shutdown that started as a temporary coping mechanism became permanent. The dimmer switch I'd turned down to survive got stuck at zero. "You burned out emotionally," my therapist explained. "You asked your system to handle more than it could process, so it went numb to protect you. But now you're stuck there." 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Are you sure you're not just tired?" Maybe I was just tired. Maybe this was normal and I was overreacting. Maybe everyone felt this way and I was just weak for struggling with it. But deep down, I knew this wasn't normal. I remembered feeling things—joy, sadness, excitement, connection. I remembered being alive in my own life. And now I was just existing in it, a ghost in my own body. The loneliness of emptiness is that you're surrounded by life—your life, technically—but you can't touch it. You're on the other side of glass, watching everything happen but unable to participate in any meaningful way. The Moment of Recognition The turning point came six months into the emptiness, during a moment that should have devastated me. My daughter fell off her bike and broke her arm. She was crying, in pain, scared. My husband was panicking. We rushed to the emergency room. And I felt... nothing. No fear, no worry, no maternal instinct kicking in. I did everything I was supposed to do—comforted her, handled the logistics, stayed calm. But internally, there was just that same flat grayness. Sitting in the ER waiting room, watching my child suffer, unable to feel anything about it—that's when I knew this had gone too far. This wasn't coping anymore. This was being dead inside while still technically alive. I called my therapist from the hospital parking lot. "I think something's really wrong," I said. "My daughter broke her arm and I felt nothing. Not scared, not worried, nothing. What's wrong with me?" "You're not broken," she said gently. "You're depleted. Your emotional system has shut down to protect you from overwhelm. But we can bring it back online. It's not gone—it's just... sleeping." The Long Thaw Healing from emptiness is different from healing from sadness. You can't think your way out of it or talk your way through it. You have to slowly, carefully, wake up your emotional system—like coaxing circulation back into a limb that's fallen asleep. My therapist started me on an antidepressant, despite my protests that I wasn't sad. "Anhedonia is a symptom of depression," she explained. "The medication can help restore your brain's ability to experience pleasure and connection." We also worked on creating space for emotions to return. I'd been so focused on functioning that I'd never given myself permission to not be okay. We practiced sitting with feelings when they appeared—even tiny ones. A moment of annoyance. A flicker of interest. A brief sense of peace. At first, nothing. Then, slowly, pinpricks of sensation started breaking through the numbness. I'd be driving and suddenly notice the music. Really notice it, not just hear it. For thirty seconds, I'd feel something approximating enjoyment before the grayness returned. I'd see my daughter laugh and feel a tiny spark of warmth. Just a spark, gone almost immediately, but something. These moments were so small, so fleeting, that I almost didn't recognize them as progress. But my therapist celebrated each one. "That's your emotional system waking up. Little by little, it's coming back." The Return of Feeling The first time I genuinely cried—not just tears, but real, emotional crying—was four months into treatment. I was watching a movie, some forgettable drama, and a scene showed a parent reuniting with their child. And suddenly, unexpectedly, I was sobbing. Deep, wrenching sobs that came from somewhere I'd forgotten existed. My husband looked alarmed. "Are you okay? What's wrong?" "Nothing's wrong," I said, crying and laughing at the same time. "I'm feeling something. I'm actually feeling something." It sounds absurd, but that moment of sadness—actual, genuine sadness about a fictional character—felt like a gift. Because it meant I wasn't empty anymore. The void was starting to fill. After that, feelings returned gradually, unpredictably. Joy at my morning coffee. Irritation at traffic. Affection when my husband held my hand. Gratitude for a kind gesture. Fear during a tense moment at work. They were small, these feelings. Not the overwhelming emotions I'd shut down years ago, but manageable ones. Real ones. Evidence that I was inhabiting my life again instead of just observing it. The Ongoing Journey A year later, I'm not completely "healed." I still have stretches of flatness, days when the grayness returns and everything feels muted. But they're the exception now, not my constant state. I've learned that emptiness was my mind's way of protecting me from more pain than I could handle. But in protecting me from pain, it also shut me off from joy, from love, from connection, from life itself. The work now is staying present with whatever I feel—even when it's uncomfortable, even when it's painful. Because the alternative to feeling is that terrible emptiness. And I never want to go back there. I've learned to recognize the warning signs—when I start going through motions without presence, when colors start to seem less vivid, when I catch myself smiling without meaning it. That's when I know I need to pause, to check in, to make sure I'm not sliding back into the void. The Truth About Emptiness If you're reading this and recognizing yourself—if you're not sad but you're not okay, if you're functioning but not living, if you're going through motions but not feeling anything—I want you to know: this is depression too. Even though it doesn't look like what you thought depression would look like. Emptiness is as valid a form of suffering as sadness. Just because you're not crying doesn't mean you're not hurting. Just because you're functioning doesn't mean you're okay. You're not weak for feeling nothing. You're not broken for going numb. Your system did what it had to do to survive. But you don't have to stay there. Feelings can return. The void can fill. The grayness can give way to color again. It takes time, it takes help, it takes patience. But it's possible. You're not gone. You're just sleeping. And with the right support, you can wake up. Emptiness isn't the absence of depression—it's depression disguised as functioning. When your emotional system shuts down to protect you from overwhelm, you don't collapse dramatically. You just... fade. You perform life without experiencing it, exist without living, function without feeling. But numbness isn't your natural state. It's your nervous system's emergency shutdown, and it was never meant to be permanent. The feelings you think are gone aren't dead—they're dormant, waiting for you to create enough safety to let them return. You're not a broken person. You're an exhausted one. And exhaustion, with time and care, can heal.
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