Adult Life
What is it that nobody tells you about adult life?
That adult life is much, much better than childhood.
If you find yourself thinking the opposite, you are romanticising “not having any responsibility” while ignoring the other side of it, which is not having any freedom!
As a child, your happiness was totally dependent on the adults around you. Whereas as an adult, you are responsible for your own happiness and it's simply great!
While it's true that things are simpler in childhood, that's also because your perception of things is simpler, primarily because you are a child and aren't capable of grasping life in all its nuances. As an adult, this changes. You realise the context of most things sometimes to your own peril. You also risk complicating things.
But that's the best part of being an adult. That it's all on you. If you complicate things, you are free to sort them out instead of depending on someone else.
Life only gets better steadily! With experience.
Relationships get better with experience. Communication gets better with experience. Sex gets better with experience. You understand that love is a practice and a verb. It is also hard work.
With age, your edges smoothen and you learn the value of kindness and compassion above intelligence and logic. You realise that more things are likely to work out with love than with arguments, however brilliant! This makes you a better person.
Your manner of dealing with conflict gets better with age. Your manner of handling disappointments, hardships and sorrows gets better with age.
You realise how temporary most of your feelings are, with age. With a little more of age, you realise the same is true of your thoughts. With age, you learn to therefore take yourself much less seriously.
With age you also learn one of the biggest lessons your younger self usually misses - there is no ultimate meaning to life. Your life will be what you make of it. It is on you to give it meaning.
As an adult, you don’t need anybody’s permission and you can live your life on your own terms. You have complete freedom along with the intelligence and maturity to understand that freedom comes with responsibility - something I am sure your teenage self would love to realise.
10 Key Points of Adult Life
- Once you cross 20, your family will start expecting. The expectations increase exponentially with time. By the time, you turn 25 and still can't support your parents, you're doomed for them. Hard fact but true.
- Every family silently wants their son/daughter to become an engineer, a doctor, a chartered accountant, a civil servant, and the prime minister. Very few will ask you, what you really wish to do. Every family is competing with every other family.
- If you’re not earning in at least six figures by the end of 25, you’re not that great to be respected. You would face constant taunts about your education and caliber.
- Frankly, no one gives a fuck about your emotions, problems or whether you’re alive. People will only care if you’re rich, handsome and mourn for a day when you die.
- Most companies will only hire you with good salaries and profile if you’re good looking. Frankly speaking, they care the least about your degree. Yes, knowledge is important but you know, they know, a naughty smile works better than a skilled hand.
- There is a saying that, life for a woman is tough. Believe me, life for a man is 10X tougher than a woman. If you don’t get settled, you have the option to get married and chill. If we don't settle, we won't get married. Even our parents will one day tell us to die.
- No human being in today's generation will love you like the oldies. 90’s generation was real. Now, every human has a motive.
- Relationships will only work till the end if you’re fit, rich and everything. Nobody wants to stay with a jerk. Oh, you wanna talk about people with good nature and heart? Lol.
- The girlfriend/boyfriend, you’re hanging with, eating pizzas and ripping the chicken may leave you one day because you’re out of shape.
- For boys- The woman is tough with getting an orgasm. Don't just feel happy if you're done. Ask them if they are on the same page. They would never tell you.
About the Creator
Faraz
I am psychology writer and researcher.
You're Not Lazy — You're Mentally Exhausted (And No One Told You)
You’re Not Lazy — You’re Mentally Exhausted (And No One Told You) For years, many of us have carried the same quiet belief. That we’re lazy. That we lack discipline. That everyone else seems to have life figured out—except us. We watch others move forward while we feel stuck in place, and the conclusion feels obvious: Something must be wrong with me. But what if that conclusion is wrong? What if the problem was never laziness at all—but a level of mental exhaustion you were never taught how to recognize, name, or respect? The Silent Burnout Nobody Talks About Mental exhaustion doesn’t always announce itself loudly. It doesn’t always come with breakdowns, tears, or visible collapse. More often, it shows up quietly. It looks like wanting to do better, but feeling unable to start. Like beginning tasks with good intentions, only to abandon them halfway through. Like feeling guilty for resting, yet too drained to be productive. Like losing interest in things you once cared deeply about—without knowing why. From the outside, you may still be functioning. You show up. You meet expectations. You get things done—just enough to survive. So you call it laziness. And eventually, you start believing it. But laziness doesn’t come with guilt. It doesn’t come with frustration or shame. Exhaustion does. Why Motivation Alone Doesn’t Work We are constantly told to “push harder.” To “wake up earlier.” To “stop making excuses.” But motivation cannot fix a tired nervous system. When your mental energy is depleted, discipline feels heavy. Focus becomes painful. Even simple decisions begin to feel overwhelming. This is not a failure of character. It’s a biological and psychological response to prolonged pressure. A mind that has been running on survival mode cannot suddenly switch into inspiration. No amount of self-criticism will create energy where none exists. You’re not broken. You’re overloaded. The Pressure to Always Be Improving We live in a culture obsessed with progress. Hustle culture. Productivity culture. Comparison culture. There is always someone doing more, achieving faster, resting less. And without realizing it, we internalize the message that slowing down equals falling behind. Rest becomes something you must earn. Slowness feels like failure. Pausing feels dangerous. So instead of listening to our limits, we punish ourselves for having them. We push through exhaustion. Ignore warning signs. And call it “self-improvement.” But there is nothing healthy about constantly overriding your own capacity. That isn’t growth. That is self-neglect disguised as ambition. What Actually Helps (Quietly) Real progress doesn’t begin with pushing harder. It begins with honesty. Honesty about your energy—not your intentions. Honesty about your limits—not your potential. Healing mental exhaustion often looks unremarkable from the outside: Acknowledging that you’re tired without turning it into a flaw Allowing yourself to pause without guilt or justification Reducing noise instead of adding more pressure Choosing consistency over intensity Creating space instead of forcing motivation Energy cannot be bullied into returning. It must be restored. And restoration is not weakness—it is strategy. A Different Kind of Strength We’ve been taught that strength means doing more. But real strength often looks like knowing when to stop. Like choosing clarity over chaos. Like offering yourself compassion instead of criticism. It’s the courage to admit that something isn’t working—without blaming yourself for it. If you are struggling right now, hear this clearly: You are not lazy. You are mentally exhausted. And exhaustion is not a personal failure—it’s a signal. A signal that something needs care, not punishment. You don’t need to become a different person. You don’t need to “fix” yourself. You need rest. You need understanding. You need permission to be human. And that is not a weakness. That is where healing actually begins.
By Med Abdeljabbar3 days ago in Psyche
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