A Loving Heart With Ears

Chapter 1 - A Superhero Finds Her Cape

Today I'd like to share on how this woman Rachelle Jones has saved my life. So first we will begin with how she got connected back to her own internal power as a human being. First, she is an avid servant at heart whether it be in the armed forces or outside of them. So after leaving the Air force with her husband she went into full time mothering her two wonderful children. Yet as the toll of life kicked in there still was a missing void in her heart because her father wasn't emotionally available throughout her childhood and her adult life. As her frustration built she felt that he needed to reach out. As time progressed she moved through life growing accustom to that void and still yearned to live a fulfilled life with her family. That was until she got a phone after a social gathering that her father had committed suicide.

Rachelle Explaining Her Breaking Point

Waiting with tears in her eyes and an avalanche of questions. There was so much grief to work through left her in a whirlwind of confusion. She was longing to reconcile all of the lost time and future memories.

Waiting for a moment for her father to truly acknowledge all of those lost moments was no longer a reality leaving her hurt and lost. She was on the brink of planning her own way to remove herself from the world. So she realized that she was not prepared for this tragedy and needed something different. Leaving her searching for the tools and answers needed to truly repair her broken heart and ultimately sparking her journey of empowering other people.

As she went through Grief Recovery she realized how unprepared we all are as human beings to truly deal with the losses that consistently happen in the world.

How She Found Her Cape

As she began truly healing from the inside out it became apparent that a lot of other people were suffering as well. So when she found out that she could get certified in becoming a specialist the investment was a no brainer. With an avid heart for others and the resilient dedication to empowering others, this brings me to our next chapter on how our paths crossed at a crucial time in my own life.

Chapter 2. Divine Timing

I grew up as a young African American man with very flimsy self-esteem and the consistent hurt of feeling like I wasn't good enough for my parents to stay together. This led to me performing for their attention and left me each night trying to numb that pain with a wide array of vices. Due to my upbringing, the conversation of mental health wasn't a prevalent conversation at the dinner table. So as I navigated my young adult life I realized that the lifestyle I had of working to consistently numb my hurting heart could not be a sustainable model of living. Ignoring my own signs of depression I tried to press through, but as life would have it my foundation would also come crumbling down.

That's when I got a phone call around 8pm when I was 19 years old from my younger brother telling me that my Mom which was and still is my superhero had a stroke. As I rushed to the hospital speeding past the eerily dim fluorescent lights in the hospital I still distinctly remembered seeing my mother barely being able to speak on the hospital bed. As I slowly walked over to her and held her hand I realized that if I kept trying please everyone around me like my mother that I too would be in a hospital bed or committing suicide. Thankfully she recovered well and is in great health now but it wasn't until I was in the hospital bed multiple times for almost overdosing where I realized I needed new tools.

Myself at the hospital for the fourth time

Which is when I met Rachelle. Initially, I was hesitant because I did therapy as a young child and didn't want to waste time or money I needed results quickly. I soon realized though that she genuinely cared about my well being from a very pure loving space. I think that every woman and especially mother has this trait. However, as she meticulously studied my body language and became fully present to my hurting needs I opened up. With her as my cheerleader and confidant as I navigated through years of darkness and pain, I felt I could actually learn to love me.

I felt that she gave me the key to really seeing how special and beautifully made I am for myself. This effect also lasted outside of her office because she gave me every tool she used so that I could liberate myself whenever I wanted to. I'm eternally grateful for her listening ear and how often she reminds me that if I want something I can truly attain it with the right mindset and work ethic.

A Liberated Poem

Afraid to shine my light.

Replayed that I'm alright... but I wasn't.

Always on the verge of combusting...

She came rushing in like a colourful gust of wind...

With competence she gave me confidence.

And life's turbulence became apart of this

Bigger picture... I'd no longer dim my gifts

Because of her...Rachelle Jomes I found my bliss.

Chapter 3. - Expanding Towards The World

Presence.

Inspiration.

Empowering.

All of these words eloquently describe the powerful woman that has become a friend, a bigger sister, and ultimately a guide for my emotional wellness as a young adult. As I watch her lead her family and constantly doing her work it has inspired me to really serve the world and do my work to be a heart with ears. By being vulnerable and listening more than I speak it has become my mission now to pay it forward towards others. I'm eternally grateful for who she is and has shown up consistently in the darkest times of my life. I can confidently say she has impacted my life in a way where I no longer feel the need to seek validation for who I am. With my final remarks, I'd like to showcase further her powerful work with the podcast we did together.

Amazing Opportunity to share about Emotional Wellness

Much Love

-Jahbrae