3 Situations You Should Trust Your Intuition and Ignore Your Brain’s Logical Arguments

How do we define Intuition?

According to Psychology today, it’s this:

Intuition is a form of knowledge that appears in consciousness without obvious deliberation.

It is not magical but rather a faculty in which hunches are generated by the unconscious mind rapidly sifting through past experience and cumulative knowledge.

It’s basically your brain taking up the situation in, running it through past memories and you feel the emotions in your body.

The more we try to prove this intuition to be logical, the more we lose the accuracy of it. We have heard people (us included) saying sentences like these and we were right about them:

1. My feelings say it’s not the right thing to do. I just don’t know why
2. Something about her feels off. I just can’t see how no one else feels that way

In my case, dating scenarios involved lots of thinking and intiutions so much so that I confused between them both.

First impressions do matter and that first gut feeling was never proven wrong till today. Being a Hyper Sensitive Person, having to listen to my gut feeling with loud noise, bright lights and fighting to pay attention is itself a task of it’s own. But I did learn a few lessons on how my brain chose to argue against those intution and pleaded me to take a second chance or see things “logically”.

I can easily say I ended up in sh***y situations trying to listen to my oversmart brain.

There were few logical statements I have observed my brain telling me and sharing it here hoping they help you the next time if you struggle between being a good person to yourself or to the seemingly harmless person opposite to you.

The Celebrity Pattern

“It’s an honour to be talking to this person. It’s so amazing of them to be talking to someone like me”

For no solid reason, suddenly we feel a lesser person when certain people are around.

They don’t have to be celebrities but something about them makes you feel lucky that even they are talking to you and spending time with you.

You feel honoured.

I would say — run if you can!

No person with a comfortable energy about them would make people feel lesser. This is a strong sign that this person is not what our brain assumes them to be and for sure it’s going to end in a conflict with this person somehow.

I had this intuition about my ex, I used to feel that he was a rebellious, handsome guy and it was my privilege he chose me among all other girls in college. The scars of the relationship would stay with me for years and this person gave me hell.

The second is an even more painful memory (*warning sexual abuse memory*).

I had the same hero instinct towards my granddad.

He had a kind of swag about him and I was trying to get his approval as a disciplined grand daughter and always felt I will never amount to getting a “good” from him. He always kept praising his daughter’s children (I was his eldest son’s child).

That day my grandfather had taken me on a walk and he had put his hands on my shoulder. The 9 year old me was so happy that he was warming up to me.

When the hand slowly moved to my chest and started carassing it, I knew it was not. And in the second attempt I ran few steps ahead shaking from head to toe.

This pattern of thinking had saved me from toxic people a lot of times in my life.

If you see yourself putting people on a pedestal and feelimg your self worth reduced then it’s time to put the blame on them, not you.

Staking your Self- Respect Pattern

There are situations you feel your dignity to be breached but your mind asks you to ignore it.

It could be something simple as a person replying in single smilies to your paragraphs on a regular basis as a pattern or in worst cases, when the person blatantly ignores what makes you uncomfortable in an intimate setting.

The lesson here is to never accept this pattern with excuses like they might be busy or maybe next time things will be better.

It won’t be. I promise you.

If a person is stifling your eager conversation by breaking it with one letter responses, it’s a clear sign that further conversation with this person is not going to get any better.

A person who wishes to hear you out will do it. Period. Or if they are in a rush, they would have the courtesy to inform you that.

If you have certain standards to be met, certain boundaries, hold on to them like your life depends on them.

No one, I repeat no one has the right to repeat anything that breaches your boundaries (physical, emotional), after you have informed them and makes you feel disrespected. No matter the setting. No matter how promising this situation started to be.

Be ready to walk away immediately.

Your brain might throw sentences like — maybe next time around it will be fine, don’t be so judgemental or dramatic.

No, a second chance will leave you more disappointed.

Anything that threats your boundary, makes your body feel fear is real and it’s common sense to respect it.

When everything goes wrong around you Pattern

I don’t believe a 100% in the universe helping us idea because The Secret has screwed up my mind enough already.

But I believe in the pattern of things going terribly wrong when you are about to meet someone or planning to do something.

It’a situation like these “the go with the flow” idea comes in handy.

I would say, when everything seems to fall apart on a single day, people are unnecessarily rude to you, normal things (as simple as getting a cab) just doesn’t work when your about to see a person or go to someplace, please take a rain check.

I understand if it’s an emergency or time situation, then taking 5–10 deep baths and drinking water would help you tackle your day.

But if it’s a normal thing, that should have happened without hassle then maybe it’s good to avoid meeting the person, on that day atleast.

There are certain situations that does not require you to resist, struggle and raise above the obstacles. Do not try and force to end on a happy note end on by going forward anyway. It might be you ignoring the signs your brain is picking from the environment that this end goal is not something to work for — atleast today.

I have heard people escaping narrowly from accidents by giving in and choosing to go back home.

Let go of resistance and listen to your body’s response. It’s okay if your brain calls you a paranoid or a coward.

Dropping everything and returning back could even save you.

Final Thoughts

Gut feelings are not 100% accurate but so are the ideas given by your brains. Don’t wait for a logical answer to your gut feelings because at that moment brain has taken over.

We have become so used to the endless chattering of our minds that we fail to realize, by being present we can see forsee and avoid complicated situations.

We have been taught to admire, respect people and give chances. But common sense would tell you not everyone deserves it.

Your intuition tells you exactly how to save yourself from that person who does not deserve it.

At the end, it’a up to us, to keep aside our “good persona” for once and act on our instinct.