119 Ways Cheaters Are Similar To Rapists

Disclaimer.

I personally have been victim to rape twice, once as a kid and once as an adult, both times by women, and I personally have been cheated on at least four times. I have never cheated in a relationship, I've never raped anyone before, and I would never cheat nor would I ever rape anyone. As it looks by the evidence - they are both one and the same thing, merely separated by slight dynamics. But the events, the harms, the traumas, the narcissistic tendencies themed, they are very, very, very much the same between the two.

Some of these might be so similar of points that they might as well be considered repeat bullet-points. I apologize for that. By all means feel free to help me assort the list.

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1. - People who cheat in relationships are similar to rapists in the sense that they both demonstrate a lack of respect for another person and a disregard for the other person's feelings and emotions. Both are attempting to take advantage of another person outside of the context of a healthy relationship, and both are indicative of a power imbalance and predatory behavior.
2. - Both demonstrate a lack of respect for another person.
3. - Both demonstrate a disregard for the other person's feelings and emotions.
4. - Both attempt to take advantage of another person outside of a healthy relationship.
5. - Both are indicative of a power imbalance.
6. - Both involve predatory behavior.
7. - Both involve deception and betraying someone's trust.
8. - Both involve manipulation in order to gain control.
9. - Both actions are damaging to the victim on an emotional and sometimes even physical level.
10. - Both demonstrate an unwillingness to take responsibility for their actions.
11. - Both show a disregard for other people's boundaries.
12. - Both involve taking something from another person without that person's consent.
13. - Both indicate a disregard for the victim's consent.
14. - Both can cause long-term psychological damage to their victims.
15. - Both lead to feelings of being violated and disrespected.
16. - Both can cause fear and insecurity.
17. - Both often involve an imbalance of power.
18. - Both can result in loss of self-confidence.
19. - Both can have long-term effects on the victim's relationships and interpersonal dynamics.
20. - Both involve behaviors that can be coercive or violent.
21. - Both can result in the victim feeling degraded, powerless and manipulated.
22. - Both lead to situations in which the victim feels helpless.
23. - Both involve the exploitation of vulnerable people.
24. - Both can cause a breakdown or complete dissolution of trust.
25. - Both involve abusive, dominating, and manipulative behaviours.
26. - Both lead to a feeling of being betrayed and wronged.
27. - Both can cause permanent emotional damage.
28. - Both lead to feelings of humiliation and shame.
29. - Both can cause the victim to feel taken advantage of.
30. - Both can cause the victim to feel violated, rejected, and lonely.
31. - Both can lead to a loss of self-esteem and identity.
32. - Both may cause the victim to become isolated and withdrawn.
33. - Both can lead to a need to continually seek assurance and validation.
34. - Both can damage the victim's ability to trust other people.
35. - Both can lead to a fear of intimacy.
36. - Both can lead to a fear of loving and being loved.
37. - Both can lead to increased levels of depression, guilt and anxiety.
38. - Both can leave their victims feeling guilty and confused.
39. - Both can lead to the victim becoming overly defensive.
40. - Both can lead to victims feeling helpless, weak and scared.
41. - Both can lead to victims developing a distorted and negative self-image.
42. - Both can cause feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness in the victim.
43. - Both can cause the victim to become emotionally unavailable.
44. - Both can lead to the victim feeling fearful, paranoid and vulnerable.
45. - Both can lead to a victim feeling numb and unable to concentrate on tasks.
46. - Both can cause a victim to have difficulty forming or maintaining relationships.
47. - Both can lead to feelings of anger, rage and resentment towards the perpetrator.
48. - Both can lead to the victim feeling emotionally, mentally, and/or physically drained.
49. - Both can cause the victim to attempt to psychologically distance themselves.
50. - Both can lead to victims feeling they're losing control of their life and mind.
51. - Both can cause the victim to experience nightmares, flashbacks, and intrusive thoughts.
52. - Both can lead to victims avoiding their usual activities, hobbies and pursuits.
53. - Both can lead to the victim avoiding certain places or people who remind them of the perpetrator.
54. - Both can cause a form of Stockholm syndrome in which victims become increasingly dependent upon their perpetrator for validation and acceptance.
55. - Both can lead to victims engaging in riskier and more self-destructive behaviors.
56. - Both can cause the victim to dissociate from reality in order to cope with their trauma.
57. - Both can lead to victims believing that they are to blame for the abuse.
58. - Both can result in victims seeking out abusive relationships, seeking a sense of familiarity with the abuse.
59. - Both can cause the victim to develop suicidal ideation and severe mental health issues.
60. - Both can lead to the victim becoming an injured bystander in any new relationships.
61. - Both can lead to self-medicating behaviors and addictions to cope with the trauma.
62. - Both can cause victims to lie, project, and blame in order to protect themselves from further trauma.
63. - Both can cause victims to feel shame and stigma.
64. - Both can lead to victims developing a heightened sense of paranoia.
65. - Both can lead to victims feeling unsafe and hypervigilant.
66. - Both can lead to victims feeling powerless and voiceless.
67. - Both can cause victims to develop feelings of complicated grief for the relationship.
68. - Both can lead to victims becoming overly sensitive to criticism and rejection.
69. - Both can cause victims to become increasingly isolated and despondent.
70. - Both can cause victims to become obsessively attached to the perpetrator.
71. - Both can lead to victims feeling overwhelmed by both their past and present situations.
72. - Both can lead to an increased risk of suicidal thoughts, behaviors and attempts.
73. - Both can cause victims to become overly sensitive to judgement and criticism from others.
74. - Both can lead to victims exhibiting avoidance behaviours such as ignoring calls or avoiding social engagements.
75. - Both can lead to victims developing an increased fight or flight reflex.
76. - Both can cause victims to become emotionally dependent on the perpetrator, believing they are the only support system they have.
77. - Both can lead to victims becoming unable to accept help from anyone else.
78. - Both can lead to victims feeling they are undeserving of help, love or compassion.
79. - Both can cause victims to develop an increased sense of self-loathing and guilt.
80. - Both can create a strong sense of instability within the victim.
81. - Both can cause victims to withdraw from the world and become reclusive.
82. - Both can lead to victims becoming increasingly desensitized to violence and abuse.
83. - Both can cause victims to become disconnected from their emotions and feelings.
84. - Both can lead to feelings of helplessness and powerlessness in the victim.
85. - Both can cause victims to become hostile and aggressive towards people and situations.
86. - Both can lead to victims feeling constantly under threat from the perpetrator.
87. - Both can lead to the victim engaging in emotional and mental self-harm.
88. - Both can lead to victims feeling like there is no escape from the hurt, pain and trauma they have experienced.
89. - Both can lead to victims losing the capacity to trust anyone else.
90. - Both can cause victims to become reluctant to engage in other relationships or activities.
91. - Both can lead to victims developing extreme stress and anxiety.
92. - Both can lead to victims feeling constantly on guard and hyperalert.
93. - Both can lead to victims developing strong feelings of paranoia and mistrust.
94. - Both can lead to victims becoming dependent on their abuser.
95. - Both can cause the victim to become obsessed with the abuser and re-traumatize themselves by revisiting the past.
96. - Both can lead to victims developing a deep-seated fear of abandonment and further betrayal.
97. - Both can lead to victims disregarding their safety in order to maintain the attachment.
98. - Both can lead to victims making excuses for the abuser.
99. - Both can lead to victims losing their sense of belonging and identity.
100. - Both can lead to victims feeling disconnected from their own life and reality.
101. - Both can lead to victims constructing a ‘false self’ in order to regain a sense of control.
102. - Both can lead to victims engaging in a distorted sense of reality.
103. - Both can lead to victims believing their behaviour is justified and that it is normal.
104. - Both can lead to victims developing a distorted perception of intimacy and relationships.
105. - Both can lead to victims feeling a lack of control over their own life.
106. - Both can lead to victims becoming obstinate and split in their loyalties.
107. - Both can lead to victims feeling trapped in a cycle of abuse and self-blame.
108. - Both can cause victims to become co-dependent on their abuser.
109. - Both can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness.
110. - Both can cause victims to lack faith in the justice system and the rule of law.
111. - Both can lead to victims feeling emotionally drained and drained of strength and energy.
112. - Both can cause victims to become increasingly sensitive to any comments or criticisms.
113. - Both can lead to victims developing low self-esteem.
114. - Both can lead to victims feeling excluded and isolated from friends and family.
115. - Both can lead to victims feeling a lack of ownership of their own lives.
116. - Both can lead to victims feeling unworthy and invisible to the world.
117. - Both can lead to victims becoming so fearful and anxious that they avoid situations.
118. - Both can lead to victims feeling like the abuse is all their fault.
119. - Both can lead to victims feeling that the world has learned to accept the abuse.