My Thoughts About Marriage in 2025
Would I finally find a man and tie the knot?
It's been nearly 20 years since I graduated from high school and the majority of my friends have since gotten married and had children. I'm very happy for them and glad that they're raising their own families. As for me, I'm still single and have the desire of getting married one day. One of the reasons of why I'm still without a romantic partner is because of a man's unrealistic dating expectations. The struggles I face are being "too old", whatever that meant to most men. I don't like the word old being used in a negative sense towards me, because what they mean by that is even if I'm a few years older than they are, they'll still find a way to use my age as an excuse to reject me. Ageism in the dating scene is real. Honestly, I take offense to a random man calling me old. Sure, I don't look like my age, but I'm still a human being with feelings at the end of the day. Also, the biggest complaint that most men have with me is that I don't smoke or drink. It's not to say that there's anything wrong with either one of those things. I have never smoked a day in my life, and I stopped drinking alcohol about a decade ago. I can find things to do in order to have a good time. While we're on the subject, another complaint I get from most men is that I don't go to parties or the club. If you love going to these places, good for you. Most men would see me as too boring and uninteresting, honestly, I'm more of a homebody. Watching my favorite movies and TV shows. Don't get me wrong. I'll go to places like the arcade or the movies every once in the while. Those are the kind of places I love going to and want a potential partner to enjoy those things with me. Finally, most men pass me over because of my overall appearance. I'm not the most attractive man in the world, but I believe every man should have a chance at love. Growing up, I was bullied for my dark skin and told that I looked ugly. Looks are subjective and beauty fades.
As someone who's on the Autism spectrum, dating has been even more difficult for me now in 2025. Several years ago, it was somewhat easier for me to attract potential men. Now, I believe it's mainly because of men's unrealistic and ridiculous high expectations when it comes to dating. They want a man with a car, blue eyes, 6-pack abs, and a successful career. I don't care what kind of career a man has or what he looks like. The question is would he be able to treat me with love and respect? Also, I'm more interested in a man's personality than their looks. In one of my previous stories, I've stated that I don't have a preference when it comes to a man's race. For the most part, I've dated and been in relationships with white men, but open to other races. Some men need to stop being so picky and focusing on superficial nonsense. I believe that's one of the reasons why I can't find a man.
Several months ago, I deleted a board on Pinterest where it was dedicated to weddings, wedding themes, and anything wedding related. The reason was because of the uncertainty of ever finding a romantic partner, but I might consider creating a new wedding board again. I like a man who's romantic and loves to spend time with me. I want to be an equal to my potential partner. I'm starting to grow tired of hooking up with men. Sex is nice, but I'm serious of finding the one. I could care less about finding "The perfect man". There's no such thing as a "perfect life", because it doesn't exist. People think that relationships, specifically marriages, are supposed to be blissful and perfect, which aren't true. Every couple will go through some sort of hardship or difficulties at some point in their relationships.
I just have to work harder to attract the right men. There are physical changes I'd like to improve on. Unfortunately, looks are the main thing men look for in other men. That's just the reality of dating. Is it right? No, but that's just how it is. I struggle with my appearance, but again, I have the means of making those changes. I'm responsible for my own insecurities and no one else. I'm nearing 40 and want to take my health more seriously. I don't have any serious illnesses, but staying active is important to me. Three to four times a week, I walk to and from work, making sure I get some exercise. However, I'd like to get stronger and fit in order to improve my chances of attracting even more men. If all goes well, it might lead me to a potential match and somewhere down the road, marriage. I'd also be fine being with a man and us just being committed to one another without getting married. Like a Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell kind of relationship. I've never been married before. I almost got married, but I won't talk about that. I hope that every man finds someone to love. Wish me luck, everyone.
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Mark Wesley Pritchard
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Thank you so much for being down to earth enough to share your vulnerabilities with us on vocal. We are kind of like a family here aren’t we? But if you don’t mind I’d like to share a few thoughts with you. Maybe it’s time that you are the one who has a criteria as to what you are looking for in a partner. And maybe you should be the one who rejects the ones that do not live up to your standards instead of the other way around. I know that you feel that being 40 is too old to be single and you probably think that if you don’t get anybody by 40 you will never get anybody. That is not true. There are a lot of people that find their partner in their 40s, 50s, 60s and even in their 80s. It’s never too late. Last I’d like to say stop trying so hard. As a matter fact don’t even try anymore. Or at least don’t try and the different ways that people try like dating apps, please do not go onto those dating apps. If if you wanna bruise your self-confidence then go ahead and go onto the dating apps but I wouldn’t. That’s an easy way to get involved in a scam. What I would do is just get yourself involved in different activities that get you in to society. Maybe find your local LGBTQ center and do volunteer work with them. Do you want me a lot of quality people that way. Maybe get involved with the pride committee in your community and volunteer with them. Find a church in your area that is an LGBTQ congregation. Just one way or another get yourself out there in situations where you meet quality people that are not into the bars and not into drinking And so forth. Be down to earth, be real, be yourself. Don’t try to be somebody you are not. Just let your true self shine through even if you make mistakes or if you say something dumb it doesn’t matter embrace the mistakes and embrace the dumb things that we say and laugh at them and enjoy Them and that will shine through more than anything else your age won’t matter and anyway 38 years old is very young. You seem like a good person and I enjoy your writing. I don’t have the chances to read very much but I do try to get around to each of my various favorites and read something by them. Have a good day!🙂