My Experience With Being Queer and Trans

Until recently I've always had a hard time with understanding and feeling included in romance. The idea of a romantic relationship was appealing but I could never understand the difference between a romantic relationship and friendship. I have a very complicated relationship with romance and now I can finally understand the reason. I'm grayromantic, which is on the romantic spectrum. I rarely feel romantic attraction and when I do it's confusing and hard to explain, that's the simple way to explain my attraction towards people.

I'm also asexual. I've never been attracted to someone in a sexual way and that kind of relationship isn't appealing to me in the slightest. I enjoy intimate things such as kissing and cuddling but the idea of going further than that disgusts me and I don't think many other people feel that way. I feel isolated due being AroAce and it sucks.

I've found peace and acceptance in the fact that I'm AroAce and for everyone questioning if you're alone in the way you feel I want to let you know that you're not alone and you are valid and amazing, just the way you are. Being AroAce isn't a disease and it isn't something that can or needs to be cured.

I've been told by so many people that my identify doesn't actually exist and that I identify this way because of trauma or because I want attention, which is absolutely not true. I hope that one day the stigma around asexuality and aromanticism will fade away. We are real and we are people, just like everyone else. I will forever stand up for anyone and everyone on the aromantic and asexual spectrums.

I'm also a trans guy and I've struggled with understanding and figuring myself out in regards to gender. I've never felt like a girl even when I identified as one, I've always been uncomfortable with she/her pronouns and the idea that people see me as a girl. I love being considered masculine and I love when people use he/him pronouns for me. I enjoy masculine clothes and shorter hairstyle. At the same time I like to have long hair but I want to be seen as feminine guy who sometimes wears dresses.

I'm polyamorous as well and it's contradictory of my aroace identity but I'm proud to be polyam. I have the capacity to love m people at once and I'm all for having multiple partners if everyone is aware and willing to commit to the relationship. I love who I love and that's amazing.

I'm panromantic, No I don't date pans, I just love all people, no matter how they identify. I've struggled to identify my own feelings towards people for my entire life but panromantic feels like it's finally the right label for me. I always get told that I'm just bi or to pick a side but I don't need to pick a side or use a differnt label. I'm confident in my own identity.

I hope all of my fellow queer buddies out there are having an amazing day, you guys deserve all you want from the world. You're so strong and you make me proud to see all of you guys living, even if you feel alone, just remember that there is a whole community beside you to help you through your journey.

Happy pride month everyone! I love each and everyone of you guys, these days we all have to stick together and try our best to lift each other up. I love seeing everyone being proud of their identities and finding their happy communites in this world.