I Am Angry At My World, Today.

"How can you be bisexual if you are married to a man, and you have children?"

"Are you sleeping around?"

These are questions I get asked, usually by people who work with children.

Being married does not change who I am attracted to. It simply means that I chose a man to spend the rest of my life with because I love him in the same ways that I could also love a wife if I had married a female.

It does not mean that my attraction or feelings for women have an automatic switch.

I have been asked the question by people who come from all kinds of backgrounds, mostly those who have, or work with children, and admitting my sexuality as a parent in the past has often caused some professionals to view me as promiscuous.

I have often gone back into the closet and refused to disclose my sexuality because of that label alone, and it is awkward; because I have friends who work with children who view me in the same way, often breaking up friendships when I disclose my sexual orientation because they worry that I might discourage their children to be the same as me.

They have this deep misconception that my sexual orientation forces me to sleep around, and they think I will teach their children to do that as they get older.

This is not the case.

Children are a big part of our lives.

Like other parents, we are very clear that they need protection. and teaching about how to handle safe relationships as they grow up.

We do not talk about or expose children to anything that we feel might endanger them, though as they get old enough to understand, we know it is important to talk to them about acceptance.

There is a problem.

The world is changing; people from the LGBTQ communities, are finding it more difficult to talk openly about their relationships.

I have struggled myself, and I feel that some of my friends from the transgender communities are feeling it more deeply than I am.

Time and time again, have I been out with my friend who is part of the transgender community, and had to comfort her emotionally because she has been bullied for being a woman.

I have noticed that people in this community are scared to admit who they are.

They feel that I will judge them, and I have a message for them:

Come as you are. You are still human, and you have every right to be accepted. I am in the same boat when it comes to feeling awkward, and you don't have to suffer in silence.

I do not understand the world we live in.

People change the subject as soon as I mention the word 'bisexual.'

It's not that scary, but it is scary that I should feel I have to hide who I am because you, feel uncomfortable around me.

From a young age, at school, I was always taught that it was important to accept people from 'all kinds of backgrounds,' and, that 'kindness and acceptance are part of our human nature.'

However, when it comes to sexuality or gender, what I have been taught, and how the world behaves are different things.

It seems that the term 'heterosexual' can be spoken about without fear because that is a tradition that humans on Earth have been practising for centuries and any other way to live is viewed as abnormal because those above us dictate how we should be.

However, can we truly prove that we were supposed to be born in black and white?

Of course, we can't choose the biology we are born with, but as we grow up, we can determine how comfortable we are with our biology or orientation, and we can decide for ourselves what is right for us.

Just as we can also decide who we love, and what our sexual preferences are.

Well!

That's what our human brains tell us, anyway.

We are all supposed to be individuals, with our, own minds, and our, own ways of thinking.

We are supposed to be able to make our own choices.

Of course, I understand that there are dangers when it comes to children growing up in a confusing world, but those children will grow up even more confused if people like us are not allowed to be who we are, or even talk about it.

Yes, child protection is very important, but we are not protecting our children very well by making choices that hide issues around sexuality, orientation, and gender from them.

We need to learn to talk about it in an informed way, and by that, I am not saying that a three-year-old should be allowed to transition. I completely disagree with that, and I am clear on the fact that children cannot understand identity in this way at such a young age, though I do think that we must stop silencing people from the LGBTQ communities when they open up about who they are as people and more education is needed in schools.

I am tired of being asked this question in particular,

"Do you sleep around?"

And this one,

"How do your children feel safe around you?"

Whilst some people do behave in reckless ways, do not tarnish us with the same brush; we are not all the same.