Gay dating apps filled with ignorant, hateful men

The author of this article used artificial intelligence for some of the one-liners. I’m not mean enough to troll dating apps.

I am blown away by how arrogant the bitches on gay dating apps are. In Denver they think they’re all a bunch of movie stars. Way snottier than any L.A. queen I’ve ever known.

I spent 10 years living in Los Angeles. During that time, I worked as executive news editor of The Advocate magazine, the historic national LGBT publication, and attended lots of A list parties. I was definitely in the “in” crowd.

But today, in Denver, I am blocked on gay dating apps the second guys find out where I live. I live at Fusion Studios; an old hotel made into apartments for people who have experienced homelessness. Despite my bachelor’s degree from a highly selective college, despite the fact I’ve lived a mostly privileged life, despite the fact that I’m a nice, intelligent, honest, polite person, the hateful homosexuals on the dating apps will not give me the time of day. They’ll talk to me for an hour and then when it comes to where I live and I tell them, they instantly block me.

Guess what, girls. Your poo stinks. You’re not all that. In fact, many of you are crackheads with warts on your private parts.

Racism alive and well on gay dating apps

In Denver, a lot of the guys on dating apps are incredibly racist. They specify “whites only.” Get over your racist selves.

They also are classist. One guy told me, “I never would date anyone who lives at Fusion Studios, and I never would consider setting foot in that dump.” Believe me, I don’t want to have relations with a prick like yourself either. It takes a special kind of ignorance to discriminate against someone because they once were homeless.

I was completely sober when I became homeless and remain sober other than medical marijuana. I have never stolen anything in my life, and that’s the honest to God truth. And yet I’m treated like trash by these self-absorbed divas. They call themselves queens, but act like trolls under a bridge.

Swipe left on empathy, swipe right on delusion—that’s the real dating algorithm. For guys obsessed with image, they sure have no idea how ugly cruelty looks. They block faster than they blink—kindness isn’t part of their skincare routine. They talk about “high standards” while living in emotional basements.

If arrogance were currency, these apps would be Wall Street. They weaponize rejection like it’s a personality trait. I didn’t know Grindr came with a built-in caste system. They act like they’re auditioning for Vogue, but it’s really just a parade of insecurity.

‘No fats, no femmes’

They say “no fats, no femmes, no flaws”—but somehow forget to list they have no soul. Their bios say “masc 4 masc” but their personalities scream “fragile 4 fragile.” They ghost like it’s a full-time job and block like it’s cardio. They want a man with a house, a six-pack, and a yacht—but bring nothing to the table but attitude and a cracked iPhone.

They treat ZIP codes like criminal records and kindness like a red flag. They’re allergic to empathy but addicted to filters. They call it “preferences”—I call it a personality disorder with a Wi-Fi connection. They want you to be rich, ripped, and emotionally unavailable—just like their dads.

Some gay men express hatefulness because of deep-seated insecurities, internalized homophobia, or trauma from past rejection. Dating apps can amplify these traits by rewarding superficiality, status, and exclusion. When identity becomes performance, empathy often gets lost. The result is a culture where cruelty masquerades as confidence.

So, to the prickly princesses, I hope you find what you’re looking for. But many of you will never find anyone who makes you happy. You’re attracting people just like you.