when we're young or sad or desperate

When we’re young or sad or desperate (regardless of the reason ), we tend to see other people as absolutes (which is sort of way of assuming we know everything there can ever be about a person and nobody can convince us otherwise, not even them); we imagine them to know exactly how to fix us .

Suffering from this condition tends to prevent us from seeing the humanity of the other human being.

We tend to sort of forget that they’re a separate human being, they’re not an embodiment of our dreams and desires and imagination– that they were a human being before you and they’ll be a human being after you.

We don’t allow them to have feelings and humanity outside our fantasy

When their behavior starts to breach the limits of our fantasy

We tend to imagine them as “difficult” or “plain evil” just because they aren’t being the stick-figure puppet that our dreams want them to be that our obsessions can pull the threads of.

It wouldn’t come to this but if we opened our eyes on time to the entire human being

But we don’t, we only see in them what we want to see

Very Unlikely

We must see them as an entire human being but it is very unlikely that ever happens… which is funny because if that could be true, maybe sadness wouldn’t exist. Our dreams color reality in such colors that it becomes unavoidable to not be wounded by just love for life– or thoughts.

Maybe that’s what happens– our dreams color our thoughts and our thoughts are generated in the room right next to where our feelings are. Like sometimes you can have a thought that is interesting but so painful to have.

Seeing the entire world in bits and pieces

I think such people, who I think I am one of, see the entire world in bits and pieces.

They don’t see things and people as they’re but as they imagine them to be.

Self-deception

I think such people live a life of self-deception , they are not able to look at the world as it is (perhaps because it shows them an image of themselves that they don’t really like)

They only allow themselves to see in the world that which confirms their fantasies and hallucinations.