To want Nothing

I can appreciate a woman having everything she could possibly imagine, yet being humble enough to desire more without having a thought of greed in her mind!

This woman will have my heart all day because she puts the thought of the relationship above her and as long as her man is thinking the same, he will have full access to her mind, body and soul!

Love is not that hard when self is taken out of the picture and there is a focus on putting the other half as a priority! I myself had this figured out years ago, but could never find an opposite to hold the same value in marriage compared to my mindset!

Paul once said that it was good to settle in your current state, but be willing desire more that is perfect! I truly think that is what life is about! We can go on and on wanting things and others for selfish reasons, but the right person, thing or opportunity will never come along until the understanding of what Paul said comes to complete comprehension within.

I had to learn that it was completely OK with being alone and able to be happy by myself before I could start to add to someone’s happiness as well! Now it is this time that I feel satisfied with self, I can desire more by adding someone else that could provide the same mindset.

The saying, “never go grocery shopping while you are hungry” made so much sense when I understood this mindset of Paul! Now that I’m content with self, I desire the same love that I am willing to give with healthy boundaries!

No more being talked down to or having girlfriends who were condescending or thought they were out of my league. Treating me like a second citizen because in the mist of my grocery shopping, I was hungry and was putting everything in my basket that my eyes laid on!

I knew the concept, but was not putting it to practice! Now that I put this settled, yet desiring better concept to practice, my boundaries are firm and bend less! I have a low tolerance for those who tread lightly on healthy and intentional communication!

Speak life into each other! Explore each other’s thoughts and preferences. Most importantly, acknowledge that the concept of the relationship is bigger than the both of you and to keep that on the horizon above all things!

It is a selfless act to put the other first, but the act is all inclusive when both parties buy into the same concept! When two people are focused on the protection of the relationship, there is no doubt of infidelity. There is no room for financial, mental or physical abuse! There is a concept of around the clock perfection when it comes to my better half in mind!

So when evil attacks the relationship we stand in unity and in clarity! We stand in conversation and confirmation so there are no misunderstandings moving forward. Why, because we both desire something better together in our current state of being settled as individuals.

What HE has put together, let no man set apart! Understand to concept of the relationship. However that is hard to visualize if you are not in a settled state that will allow the mind to sit still a focus!

Here most women and men say they will never settle until they find the right person, not knowing the right person will never come along until there is a settled state within!

Birds do not land on trees that are blowing in every direction during unstable winds.