The Strength of a Boundary

When you need to express your anger, don’t hold back. I am usually humble, but I still have my moments of fury.

Of course, a normally mild-mannered person can be quite surprising when they lose their temper. Some might say, "So your usual nice persona was just an act." Others might be shocked, realizing, "So you're not someone to be trifled with after all," and may begin to maintain a healthy distance in future interactions.

As a more mature person, I don't care what others think. I firmly believe that when you need to express your anger, you should not repress it. As long as you don't resort to physical violence or insults that damage someone's self-esteem, letting them know you're upset is enough.

Kindness doesn't mean always giving in or never expressing your feelings. Many think kind people should always smile, yield, and tolerate—but kind people also have boundaries, and they also have anger. This measured expression of anger isn't uncontrolled violence; it is a conscious form of self-protection and a firm response to injustice.

I have an old friend who always quietly helps others, tolerating the capriciousness and shortcomings of her relatives and friends. But one day, she discovered that a colleague had deliberately framed her, spreading rumors to her supervisor. The anger in her heart, like a long-dormant volcano, erupted instantly.

At that moment, her kindness didn't disappear; instead, it became more complete because of her anger. She not only defended her own value but also forced the office gossipers to begin restraining themselves.

Kind people get angry because they have standards and "bottom lines." They see injustice and know how to endure it, but that doesn't mean they can allow harm to continue. For them, anger is an extension of love—a sense of responsibility toward the world, themselves, and others.

Therefore, do not mistakenly believe that kind people are always docile. Kind people also feel anger, but that anger contains power rather than destruction. It sends a clear message to the world: boundaries exist and must be respected.

In this world, kindness is not weakness, but a courageous gentleness. When kind people get angry, it is a reminder that gentleness is not the same as silence, and that anger can also be a form of benevolent protection.

Thank you for reading!