The Perils of Overloving

If you love too much, you'll often face heartbreak. In love, a man will rarely tell you directly that he doesn't actually need your unconditional kindness. Those seemingly affectionate actions — constant concern, tirelessly running errands, using money to please, or making him the center of your world — may not be seen as positive attributes by men.

Women might talk about love all day long, but men are often the opposite; their passion might only last for a period. Only a very small number of men will consider love their top priority in life, and ironically, such men are often looked down upon by women. Men's attitudes towards love are frequently very different from women's.

When you make love the entirety of your life, with your heart and eyes filled solely by the other person, and everything revolving around him or her, the outcome is often counterproductive. Not only will the other person not cherish you more because of this, but they'll gradually grow tired of you as it becomes a daily habit. This is human nature: the easier something is to get, the less valued the emotion becomes. The more unreserved and all-encompassing your giving, the harder it is to receive an equal return.

Don't be too nice to someone. You'll eventually find that over time, that person will get used to it and take everything you do for granted. Many relationships that were once sweet and loving simply fade away. If we look at the reasons, we'll find that most of the time, one party is still loving wholeheartedly, while the other's heart has long since moved on. Loving too much and too fully can become a death warrant for a relationship, making it difficult to sustain love in the long run.

A woman's spiritual world should be rich and vibrant. Her focus can be a job she loves, a delicious meal, or vast mountains and seas, but it cannot be limited to just one person. When you love someone, giving 70% is enough; save 30% to maintain your own clarity. Leave an inch of space for the other person to breathe freely, and leave yourself a foot of room to turn around and walk away.

If you like someone, take the initiative to move a few steps closer to them. If they see you approaching but show no intention of greeting you, then you should stop. Establishing an equal relationship is the prerequisite for maintaining love. Love is important, but it is by no means everything in life.

True and beautiful love is never a one-person show, nor is it one party flattering and catering to the other. Instead, it's a romantic journey of mutual effort and moving towards each other. Only when both parties always maintain a state of equal strength and are evenly matched can love last for a long time and bloom with captivating brilliance through the passage of time.

Thank you for reading!