The best feelings, but also can not compete with these words

It is said that it is easy to love each other and hard to keep, why?

Because everyone has their personality, it is very difficult to change, even if two people sincerely love each other, but also in the long-term process of living together to produce irreconcilable conflicts.

A relationship wants to be stable and long-lasting, based on how much two people love each other is far from enough, but also needs both sides to constantly improve their personalities, improve their abilities so that they continue to grow and mature.

Both men and women should learn to manage their feelings. The key to running a relationship lies in sincerity, understanding, tolerance, and companionship. Many lovers or couples, although they love each other, do not know how to manage their feelings, so the time spent together is more and more intolerable, and finally falls apart.

Good feelings, from a good way to get along. A good way to get along is through rational thinking and self-restraint. If you follow your feelings and are swayed by your emotions, and cannot look at problems and solve them rationally and calmly, you will only have more and more problems and deeper and deeper conflicts.

Two people together are not easy, should cherish their fate, treat each other well, not wantonly squander feelings, and wear each other's patience. You know, the good feelings, but also can not compete with these four words.

01. sensitive and suspicious

What is the most unbearable thing in a relationship?

Perhaps someone will say, is betrayal. Indeed, betrayal is a powerful tool to destroy feelings. In addition, the relationship is unbearable and is not to be trusted, everywhere is suspicious, and being questioned.

In the movie "I want to be good with you", the man and woman are in love with each other, but the woman is an extremely sensitive and suspicious person, always worried that her boyfriend is with another woman behind her back.

Her nonsense to the point of uncontrollable, often irrational, disagreement to run out, either to crash the car or to jump off the building. She also quietly installed surveillance in the room before her business trip, which made him especially hurt inside.

He went from loving her to being afraid of her, and finally, his heart was so exhausted that he could no longer stand it. At the end of the film, the heroine lets him go and also lets herself go. The two people who once loved each other so much were separated in this way.

The reality is that many people are sensitive and suspicious in their relationships and cannot believe in each other from the bottom of their hearts. And this usually has two reasons, one is too deep love, too afraid to lose, so hold on to the special tight, the management of the special more. The second is the bone inferiority complex, feeling that they are not good enough to get all the love of the other party.

Whatever the reason, sensitive and suspicious will make each other feel suffocated, time will be unbearable, just want to escape.

So, to have a stable and long-lasting relationship, do not be sensitive and suspicious, trust each other, and give each other some space. Otherwise, the good feelings, but also become a lot of holes.

02. strong domineering

What is the most common role in idol drama? No need to think much must be the domineering president.

The domineering president in TV dramas is always particularly popular, both the characters in the drama and the audience in front of the screen, are moved by it. But the TV show's domineering president is often "not the same", the surface is strong and domineering, but the heart is extremely soft and dedicated to infatuation.

Unfortunately, the reality is that there is no such thing as a domineering president, only extreme machismo, met with no good days.

The extreme machismo, the main performance for everything to his center, never consider your position and feelings, always like to interfere with your affairs, for you to make decisions, your many claims, he was refuted, for a lot of reasons.

With such a person, if you are not strong-willed enough, it is easy to be brainwashed, and finally, lose their opinions, lose themselves, and completely become their appendages. The good thing is that most women nowadays have a strong sense of independence, and when they encounter extremely macho people, they usually stop in time. The reason is that they love freedom more than love.

Likewise, women are too strong and domineering, but also discourage men. After all, men like the softness of the woman, who wants to marry a shrew home?

Some women in life are really strong, very domineering, can step on the dignity of men under the feet friction, but also feel that they are particularly powerful, especially the gods. I do not know, such a woman is not likely to get a good man's love, with which must also be no ability and no success of the man.

In the relationship, men and women should be equal, have mutual respect and love, and support each other. Only in this way, the relationship will get better and better. If one party is strong and domineering, or unreasonable, the relationship will certainly go to the end.

03. do not think about progress

What is a really good relationship like?

Personally, I think, is together to become better, each other achievements, always evenly matched.

However, there are always some people, who are afraid of suffering, not thinking about progress, only want to rely on the other half, no clear plan for their lives, and all the hope in each other. And such people, both men, and women, there are many.

Many times, a good relationship, is because one of them is not enterprising, has serious dragging legs, and comes to an end.

Everyone wants to live the ideal happy life, but where does it come from? By others to give? No, to rely on their own to fight, to create. What others give never really belongs to you, once they take it back, you will have nothing. People, after all, still have to rely on themselves.

Perhaps some people will say that people who love each other do not distinguish between each other, what is yours is mine, what is mine is yours. The fact is that you can be sure that this love will always be the same.

Someone on the Internet asked: "girlfriend 27 years old, the monthly salary is still 4000, can get married? "

The man raised this question, indicating that his current economic conditions have been far above his girlfriend, and therefore will be dissatisfied with the status quo of his girlfriend, afraid to get married after his girlfriend does not think about progress, the burden of the family falls on him alone, will be very tired, and therefore will hesitate to get married.

Women looking for objects, all want to find good conditions, and men are the same, so who does not say who is realistic? Want to be well together, want to have a happy life, work together, create together, this is the fairest.

Two people have a heart, active and aggressive, mutual help, each other's achievements, why worry about the feelings are not firm, why worry about life is not happy?

Conclusion.

Meeting each other is fate, love is a blessing. Two people together to run for a good life to go. But love is easy, it is difficult to keep each other, you need to manage each other's hearts, and feelings will be stable and long.

To run a good relationship, remember not to be sensitive and suspicious, and not too strong and domineering, not to mention unmotivated, these are particularly tortured hearts and hurt feelings.

May you have an open heart, gentle under the eyes, and strong bones. In the face of feelings, know how to operate, willing to pay, and dare to undertake. Meet a person, love a lifetime, and have the world's most happy and most beautiful rest of your life.