Sincerity: The Ultimate Relationship Skill

In any relationship, I value transparency, and I give others the freedom to do as they please.

Far too many people praise tactics, schemes, and manipulation. Yet, very few can truly accept being surrounded by hypocrisy. People universally yearn for and seek sincerity. A lack of genuine feeling and sincerity simply won't move others.

The only way to find a genuine connection is to show your true colors and use sincerity to weed out those who are out of tune with you. I choose those who are sincere and kind. Therefore, if you want to quickly screen someone for a deep friendship, treat them with unreserved kindness.

When I first started working, a genuinely kind woman advised me not to mix work and personal relationships, warning me not to be too nice to people. She said some people don't see kindness as a virtue, but rather as something alluring and dangerous to exploit. In fact, I could sense her genuine sincerity when she said that. At that moment, I decided to become her friend. To this day, we still support each other.

That's why I've always believed that sincerity is the ultimate skill. I prefer playing it straight with no beating around the bush. I am willing to extend kindness without expecting anything in return.

However, once I realize my care is not reciprocated, I will withdraw. No matter how long we've been together, I will never be held hostage by sunk costs.

There’s a saying: "Anyone looks beautiful standing under a cherry blossom tree." In any relationship, if my sincerity proves to be excessive, I won't be the one to regret it. Relationships between people won't last long if they are overly forced.

My personal formula is 70% sincerity, 30% flexibility.

I won't force you to prioritize me. But once I realize that's all I am to you—a non-priority—then I will exclude you from my world. I can't demand anything of you, but I can certainly change myself. Love and care are limited and can only be given to those who care about me. The subconscious indifference expressed by unread messages is a signal I refuse to ignore.

I've never really understood why, in a relationship, someone always wants to be "on top." There are always people trying to gather information through your every word and action, looking for an opportunity to attack you.

Is it possible that others are "playing it straight" because they are not afraid of being seen through or manipulated?

There’s a saying I really like: Extreme honesty is invincible.

Have the confidence to allow anything to happen.

Don't try to change others, but choose wisely who you walk with.

Thank you for reading!