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Pretending Not To Care

Why does It Still hurt

By Mariann CarrollPublished 3 months ago 1 min read
Pretending Not To Care
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Boundaries we try to hold so dear

To protect us from loved ones taking advantage of Us.

We say no with conviction

In our hearts, we want to help so badly

If we help or give in, we will only enable them

Snakes may shed their skin, but they are still snakes

Let's pretend we are tough, so we don't go back on our convictions.

Stop hurting yourself by being kind to those who pretend to care.

It is being kind to say no. Why the guilty feeling?

Because it's not who I am, A No man

I like to say yes to help somebody.

You might regret it and create a monster

You are not responsible for another adult's reaction to your answer.

Keep saying no with conviction when you know it's the right thing to do.

Do not let the guilt inside make you feel bad when you are really protecting

yourself from someone's destructive behavior.

Advocating for yourself is not a mask; you should not be ashamed of saying no.

Free Verseheartbreak

About the Creator

Mariann Carroll

Proactive for positive change.Born in the City of Chicago ,Illinois.

Multi race .Studied in a foreign country .Fluent in several languages .

fascinated by diversity.A Romantic and a dreamer.Interest in healthy living

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  • Tiffany Gordon3 months ago

    🔥 Amen!

  • Novel Allen3 months ago

    I learned this years ago, to determine when to say no...it was affecting me mentally, so i let go, concentrating on only the true ones. Very helpful message M.

  • I'm learning to say NO in order to take care of myself. It's difficult but I'll keep trying. Loved your poem!

  • Pamela Williams3 months ago

    Sometimes it hurts to say yes, and it hurts to say no. "Keep saying no with conviction when you know it's the right thing to do." - I agree!

  • Lamar Wiggins3 months ago

    Well expressed, Mariann. Sometimes guilt makes decisions for us. Guides us into things that don’t necessarily feel right.

  • We should always see that we are the most important person in our lives, and sometimes that definitely means saying no

  • Sandy Gillman3 months ago

    This is such an empowering reminder, saying “no” isn’t unkind, it’s an act of self-respect.

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