Losing Limerence

Steps to Take When the Object of Your Desire Doesn't Share Your Desires

Recommended by Neurologists

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How do you let go of love when it's unrequited?

This feeling, so immense,

praised in songs and held sacred,

can be the strongest of all.

Often mistaken for love.

A cause for separation

a feeling of being lost.

Struggling on alone,

while the one you desire

moves further away.

Born in a flash,

from the smallest acts,

things you never see.

Lost in your own world.

First, you must shed

that familiar scent,

the one that trails you,

kicking in your steps.

Like a wild thing in the trees

you must do every foolish thing

the opposite

of earthly rules.

But your object

is always out of reach -

unseen, unheard,

for ages.

Never touched, so that's a given.

The only issue might be

a foul taste

lingering in your mouth and in your preferences,

as everything related to it

ignites

new feelings on a path

to self-destruction.

Even if it's not truly yours,

as you adjust

to this unhappy love.

Don't let it consume you and trap you.

Break free

from its harmful hold

and discover

what truly matters to you

or reconnect with the essence

of your life before this.

This feeling is like an addiction

and there's no way to quit.

Forget everything you felt for them;

without them

it won't matter anyway.

Their presence

won't hold any power.

So, avoid thinking about,

seeing, or dwelling on them.

The bigger the attachment, the harder you'll fall.

It's only difficult at first, while your brain rewires itself.

New connections will form

based on whatever you fed them.

Roam

where your object is not present.

Pick up a new pastime

or revisit an old one.

In time,

you might discover

you're improved

in ways you haven’t before.

Approaching everything with love,

just not for this unknown thing.

He won't even see.

Your feelings, you see, are all in your mind

though you think

they're in your heart.

Reach that point

before it all unravels

without a hidden, safe place to go.

The farthest place, far off,

is the spot

where milk and honey endlessly flow.

On art's edge, where life itself captures us,

where no one expects jewels to show.

The next day

is time for the anaesthetic.

You'll need to numb yourself.

If it gets overwhelming, take a break.

No one masters this in a single day.

“Practice makes perfect,” as they say, and they're right.

Just choose your own way

and stick to it.

Keep going until

you reinvent yourself.

Good luck, my friend!