If All the Aura Fades: Would You Still Want Them in Your Life?

Would you still like this person if they had no aura?

If you were asked to introduce yourself, but couldn't mention your nationality, birthplace, residence, education, work history, height, weight, appearance, family background, assets, material possessions, or hobbies—how would you describe yourself?

It sounds like a test question, but it's not really about your resume; it's about—how would you describe your soul and personality?

This question reminds me that when choosing friends, partners, and even business collaborators, we're often drawn to their "aura"—good looks, a prestigious career, advanced education, excellent connections... These qualities are certainly impressive, but like stage lights, they can instantly capture attention but don't necessarily illuminate a person's life.

Because auras fade, the soul is the real trump card. Appearances age, jobs change, and assets fluctuate, but a person's sincerity, kindness, resilience, and values are the core strengths that carry you through the storms.

Looking back on my life, the people who stay with me aren't drawn to me because of impressive qualities, but because I feel comfortable, secure, and understood when I'm with them. This feeling is subtle, needs no packaging, and won't falter over time.

So, when building a network, consider a different screening method:

Look at the soul first, then the qualifications.

First, establish a comfortable relationship, then assess the potential for collaboration.

First, determine shared values, then discuss whether we can go further together.

Similarly, when looking for work partners or entrepreneurial partners, skills and experience are certainly important—they're the basic threshold. But if the weighting could be adjusted, I would place greater weight on personality.

Because skills can be cultivated and experience can be accumulated, personality is deeply ingrained, influencing communication, decision-making, crisis management, and even the team's atmosphere and resilience. A person with outstanding professional skills but emotional instability and a lack of integrity is not only difficult to work with but can also drain the energy of the entire team.

Next time you meet someone new, try to hide their titles, appearance, and resources. It's like stripping them of their dazzling but fleeting halo. Don't look at business cards or scroll through social media; just feel with your heart—the light in this person's eyes when they talk to you, whether they truly listen to your story, whether they rush to judge you when you're feeling down, or whether they offer quiet companionship.

Then ask yourself:

If all the auras were gone, would you still like this person?

Similarly, examine your existing friends, colleagues, and even partners and ask yourself the same question: If all the auras were removed from this person, would you still like them and want to be with them?

Some relationships may remain warm even after the aura fades; but others, the moment the aura disappears, reveal that the core of their connection has long been lost—perhaps it's time to start decluttering.

As for me, if I had to describe myself in one sentence— "I'm someone who has boundaries and principles, yet is gentle, who knows how to take care of myself and is willing to give strength to others."

What about you?

Thank you for reading!