Do You Fear Losing Someone, Or Not Knowing How to Be Alone?

The more you know how to be alone, the less you fear losing someone. In fact, I've always liked traveling solo. Beyond the freedom, no one needs to accommodate anyone else. You decide what time to have breakfast, what time to go out, and how long to stay at a tourist attraction.

I also like starting my own business. You're responsible for your decisions, and you can make them quickly without lengthy discussions or worrying about anyone's emotions.

What people need most is to know how to get along with themselves. In fact, the first step to learning how to get along with others is to learn how to get along with yourself. Some people look for a partner to protect them from life's storms, only to later find that the storms are caused by that very person.

When starting a business, you might seek a partner, thinking you'll have someone to discuss things with, but in the end, you might fall out over interests and find yourselves in an embarrassing situation. I wanted to find a companion when traveling, but I didn't expect the trip to become torture because I had to accommodate the other person in every way.

Later, I realized that you aren't incomplete because you're missing someone; rather, you haven't learned to believe that you are already complete as a person. Gradually, I realized that being alone isn't retreating from the world, but a sober choice. When you can be at peace with yourself, you will truly have the confidence to "live well without relying on anyone else.

The world is constantly changing, relationships ebb and flow, and people come and go. You can't control who will always be with you, but you can choose to be the one who never leaves you.

Here's why embracing solitude empowers you:

Being alone brings freedom of choice: Without the expectations of others, you can truly live and make decisions at your own pace.

Talking to yourself is the beginning of self-growth: When you calm down and listen to your inner voice, you begin to understand your needs and desires.

No more anxiety about relationships because you know you are not alone: What you have is a stable inner connection, not external recognition.

People who can enjoy being alone are often more comfortable in interpersonal relationships, because they aren't afraid of losing, they won't hold on to things too tightly.

Being alone doesn't mean there's no one to accompany you; it means you learn to accompany yourself with your own existence. You no longer chase after others' love, nor do you feel devastated by someone's leaving. When you know how to get along well with yourself, the world will no longer be so anxiety-provoking for you.

Thank you for reading!