Can You Handle the Responsibility of a Serious Relationship?

Only by taking things slowly can you truly filter out those who cherish you. If you want a healthy and stable relationship, do not easily accept someone's advances.

Some People Are Just Temporarily Seeking Company

Some people are simply temporarily lonely. Others are just momentarily attracted, or maybe they are just momentarily vulnerable, and in that particular moment, they desperately need a relationship to fill a void. Once the fleeting feeling passes, nothing remains.

These short-term needs from another person should not justify sacrificing your genuine feelings.

We Don't Necessarily Have to Be Together

If you only want someone to accompany you and keep you from being lonely, then we can stay as we are now. We don't need to formally enter into a relationship.

We would each be free to find suitable partners.

Relationships Inevitably Come with Responsibility

However, if you want me to take this step further and become your partner, you need to be sure you can accept that love isn't always pleasant.

You will see my flaws.

We need to accept each other's emotions, sensitivities, anxieties, and tempers.

We both need to sacrifice some freedom in exchange for the long-term stability of the relationship. It's a transition from one person's self-centeredness to two people's mutual expectations.

Are you sure you can handle all of this?

If You're Afraid of Losing Your Freedom

If you're afraid of not being free, it means you're not ready yet. You can back out now before anyone gets hurt, and we can pretend nothing happened and still be friends.

I won't do anything more than friendship with you, and similarly, you need to accept that I can be close to others.

But if you are sure you want me, and you're willing to nurture this relationship together, then we can start with a face-to-face, open confession!

If You Feel Pressured, Maybe You Don't Actually Love Me

If you feel pressured after hearing this and want to avoid it, it means you're not ready for a serious relationship. If you just want to enjoy yourself, then let's just be friends.

This is a good outcome too; it filters out someone who isn't ready. I can be happy and free on my own, instead of getting together ambiguously and then breaking up casually.

Don't Let Me Risk My Stability for Your Fleeting Interest

To all single people, take it slow; it will definitely filter out a lot of insincere people.

Thank you for reading!