Becoming Who You Needed

For the days when you forget how far you’ve already come.

Sometimes growth doesn’t look like a sunrise.

It looks like sitting quietly with your old self,

offering them a seat beside you instead of pretending they never existed.

We are so quick to measure progress in achievements, milestones, and things others can see.

But the real victories are often invisible —

the text you didn’t send,

the boundary you didn’t lower,

the moment you chose peace instead of proving your point.

Maybe becoming better isn’t about erasing who you were.

Maybe it’s about understanding them,

forgiving them,

and deciding you’ll love yourself the way they never knew how.

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Becoming Who You Needed

There was a time I mistook stillness for failure.

A time I thought healing meant sprinting toward a version of myself

that never hurt, never doubted, never broke.

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But the truth is quieter than that.

It’s the morning you wake up

and no longer feel the need to rush your becoming.

It’s the day you stop asking

“what’s wrong with me?”

and start whispering

“what happened to me?”

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There’s a difference —

and it changes everything.

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Healing isn’t about becoming brand new.

It’s about returning —

to the parts of yourself you abandoned when you thought love had conditions.

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You don’t need to start over.

You just need to start listening.

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Because somewhere inside you

lives the person you needed most —

patient, gentle, waiting for you to notice

that you’ve been becoming them all along.

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