Accomplish others to achieve yourself

A human being should fulfill the good things of others and not contribute to the bad things of others to build a long-lasting interpersonal relationship. Because to make others whole is also to make oneself whole, the cooperation of two people is always greater than the solitary battle of one person.

If you are not generous in dealing with relationships, and everything is calculating, you will alienate others from you. And if you know how to reciprocate courtesy, and return the favor, interpersonal relationships will be like a spring breeze.

So, the wise help each other, the foolish tear each other. Long-term interpersonal relationships, not each other apart, but each other achievements.

01、Respect the differences between each other

Everyone's upbringing and personal preferences are different and should be noted here in interpersonal relationships. It may not be a little too one-sided to act only on your preferences.

A harmonious and long-lasting interpersonal relationship should be one in which I tolerate your flaws and you respect my differences. No two leaves are the same, and the same is true of human relationships. Don't force each other, respect each other, is the guideline of human interaction.

A cultivated person has his code of conduct, he will not try to force others to act on their own opinions, nor will he force his thoughts on others, but respect each other's differences.

Respecting every soul is our recognition of others and our respect for ourselves. Only in this way can we enlarge our pattern and improve our eyesight, and only then can we get along with each other harmoniously.

02, master the sense of proportion with people

It's easy to say things too hard to hurt people, and it's easy to do things too hard so that you don't have a way out. Interpersonal interactions to have a sense of proportion, sense of proportion will be in and out of the degree, and the relationship between each other will be harmonious.

My friend David is a particularly good person, we will often mention him in the chat. The reason he is very popular is that David is very measured in his dealings.

David's wife loved to play cards and would often play with several card players in the factory's staff dormitory. But this is forbidden in the factory, they always secretly play cards.

For this reason, David broke his brain, and finally, he and his wife moved out of the factory staff dormitory but rented a house to live in the vicinity of the factory. This way his wife could play cards without worry.

The workers were very confused because everyone knew that the factory manager was a good friend of David's for many years. We all asked David why he still wanted to move out. Instead, David said that it was because of this that he would not bother people again.

Interpersonal relationships, a sense of proportion is a kind of ability, but also a kind of principle for people in the world. People who know how to get in and out of things and speak with a sense of proportion will have better people skills, and their careers will be more successful.

Because a lot of things if you do not grasp the proportion, will have the consequences of too much. Only a good grasp of proportion will be interpersonal relations. This is also a sign of your maturity and is a necessary joint in interpersonal communication.

Grasp a good measure of talent will have a large pattern, and wide vision, to go a long way to friendship.

03, to learn to think differently about the way of interaction

Life is not the same position, look at the world from a different perspective, many people like to stand in their perspective of the world and others, but he does not know that their position is also not treated by others.

In interpersonal relationships, only when you think differently can you experience the different feelings brought to you by different perspectives. Learn to think differently and stand on each other's perspectives to have the right direction in life.

The chicken, sheep, and dog were locked in the same fence. One day, the owner caught the chicken out. The chicken shouted, yet the sheep said to keep it down, I was often caught, and not like you ah; the dog also said, I was often caught, and not like you. But the chicken said, you were caught one is milking, one is grazing, and I was caught is to kill me ah.

Different situations and different identities will really have different ways of thinking, very often, our thinking is not right or wrong, but just different thinking and methods, resulting in different results.

We have to know the situation of the person before evaluating a thing, a person, is not always what you think it is. Other people have other people's principles of handling, we are not qualified to measure the right and wrong of others, and can not force others to follow our way of doing things.

Knowing how to think differently will conquer other people's hearts and minds, and only then will you gain their recognition.

04、To have the psychological literacy of self-reflection from time to time

I remember when I was small, once my mother went on a business trip, and when she was leaving, she told my father to water the family's monarchs. After that, my father watered the orchid every day.

Later, when my mom came back a month after her business trip, the leaves of the orchid had all withered and died. Dad didn't know what happened and was very sad.

But mom said that other people make mistakes and often have their faults. She knew that monarchs are drought plants, so she only watered them once a week, and forgot to tell Dad.

Inevitably, everyone makes mistakes in life. Knowing how to find problems in oneself is the beginning of solving problems, and it is also a sign that one has cultivation.

Everyone has flaws. To know from time to time self-reflection, tolerance to treat others, with self-reproach to treat themselves, is the greatest good of human relations.

People in the world, always think about their faults, have tolerance for others, have a correct understanding of themselves and others, avoid disputes between right and wrong, and have friendship and harmony for a long time.

A cloth tapestry is knitted by threads, and a forest is made by gathering trees one by one. People get along with each other, it is important to be sincere and achieve each other. If you can know how to work together with people, things will be a big success.

Get along with people, know to seek common ground and put aside differences, advance, and retreat, self-reflection, and think differently, only then will you let yourself flag in your interpersonal relationships.

The people who do not admit their mistakes will never progress, only when they learn to see their shortcomings and see the strengths of others, will they be able to seek common ground in interpersonal relationships and be comfortable with it.

For the rest of your life, may you make others whole and steady yourself, and gain a happy life.