Your worth is not measured in likes

“Your worth is not measured in likes, comments, notes or followers, but in your ability to love, keep comments to yourself, take note and lead.” - Dulce Ruby

Are you a member of the Silent Generation, Baby Boomer, Generation X, Millennial or Generation Z etc.?

Chris Best wrote an informative article recently.

“But too much of what we’ve received has been toxic gruel, tube-fed (through aptly named “feeds”) by sophisticated algorithms designed to exploit our worst impulses and keep us agitated, excited, engaged. The marks of this new and uglier world are everywhere. We have become conditioned to accept that viciously tearing down complete strangers online is normal and admirable, and that it is right and proper for a bad tweet from decades ago to ruin someone’s life. A new vocabulary – “doom-scrolling!” “hate-reading!” – is now necessary to capture how dysfunctional online activity has become. Even worse, these poisonous dynamics have leached into our offline lives, in the form of broken relationships, decreased attention spans, and damaged mental health.” – Chris Best https://on.substack.com/p/breaking-off-the-engagement

Regardless of where you are, social media giants have profited immensely as they have profiled these populations perfectly.

The research indicates that 97% of the account holders are approval seekers.

Thus, likes, dislikes, comments etc. are plentiful on open platforms everywhere.

Seriously, who really cares?

Most people are so caught up in their own lives, careers, goals, relationships, families, kids etc. that they don’t have any remaining precious time to devote to the online banter.

This represents the other 3% of the planet.

After it’s all said and done, the Golden Rule is still the best regardless of generational descriptions as it clearly states, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

Now onto a possible solution.

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” - Lao Tzu

You don't need their approval.

You never did.

You plopped out of your mother's womb and there you were naked and beautiful in your entire splendor.

Did someone say, "I don't think I like this baby? Maybe we should send it back”.

I don't think so.

You didn't need their approval then.

You don't need their approval now and you don't need their approval ever.

Everything has a price and the price of approval is stress and anxiety.

You don't need it and it's time to dump it.

In order to avoid conflict, approval seekers are always willing to give in and accept the status quo.

You see it’s this conflict issue that always stifles approval seekers. Approval and self-esteem are two sides of the same coin. They are codependent and are continually trying to build each other up.

Manipulators love these approval seekers as they can get whatever they want all the time by focusing on their weaknesses. These people are just like piranhas.

In order to move forward towards freedom, you must begin to teach people how you want to be treated.

It’s called your terms of engagement.

This is a must.

You must do this from the onset as no one can read your mind.

No one!

Don’t be a chameleon.

Be real and tell people who you really are and what your boundaries are from the very beginning.

You don’t have to be rude, intolerant or stubborn but you must begin to be mentally tough.

So, you need a coach?

Look in the mirror.

“Don’t forget, the best coach with the strongest power over your performance is the coach that lives within you.” – Keith Harrell

The most amazing coach on the planet is you. However, most people are seeking outwardly what they already have within themselves.

Looking outward is not the answer.

Look inside and realize that what you are seeking is already seeking you.

You were created for abundance and wealth and not lack and limitation.

You were created for greatness and that greatness lies within you. From the very first moment that you breathed your first breath, greatness was born.

No one in this universe has your DNA.

My acronym for DNA is “Dare to Nurture All.”

Therefore, dare to nurture all that is within you.

Many people short change themselves by not realizing that there is something very special within.

Allow that greatness to manifest as it has been waiting for you a very long time.

Are you ready?

I believe that you are now ready.

Congratulations.

Carpe momentum.

Franco Cianflone

1 ON 1 COACHING

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