We Get In Our Feelings Sometimes

Sometimes, we can really get in our feelings. And the thing is, people misunderstand that. They think, oh he/she is being mean, but they don’t know why. When people say that, its not personal. But people take it out of context. It could mean any number of things. A loved one passed away many years ago and we still dwell on what happened to that person.

It’ll be okay. That’s easy to say when you aren’t in that person’s shoes. You don’t know what someone is going through so never say it’s alright or it’s going to be okay. Everyone doesn’t bounce back from things so quick. It takes time. Some longer than others. What takes a month for one person may take years for another person.

I’m here for you if you need me. Be careful with that set of words because it can come back to bite you in the behind. It should only be said if you truly mean it. No one is perfect but don’t make a promise and then break it. Promises are meant to be kept.

Secrets. Why is it so hard to keep them? You know why? Someone has to have something to talk about. Telling a secret is like a joke. It’s told for entertainment purposes. Its funny at the expense that no one was supposed to know. This is where friendship, well, real friendship comes in at. I have made the mistake of keeping secrets and confiding in others just to have it thrown up in my face. Not expecting a pity party here.

Lies. Honesty is the best policy, right? The truth hurts but people don’t want to hear the truth. They want you to side with them, even when they are wrong. Sensitive subject, yet true. But the thing about lying is, once you are caught, you mask one lie. Then, you have to tell another one and repeat the process until…you realize that you are swimming in lies. A compulsive liar is now the title that you have earned. No one likes a compulsive liar, except the compulsive liar of course.

I want to see you happy, even if its not with me. There are a lot of people that can say this that mean it. I’m one of them. If the relationship isn’t working out, why remain miserable? My motto is: everyone deserves to be happy. Whether its stated, I want to see you happy, even if its not with me, or just a break-up that is necessary, it’s the mature thing to do. This goes for marriages and regular relationships.

You’ll never find anyone better than me. Something that’s tossed around a lot. No offense, but if the person was all that great, would the relationship or marriage be ending? There is someone for everybody. If you were that great of a man/woman, there would be no need for that statement to be made or for the relationship or marriage to end.

You’ll be back. This is a bold statement, but a person with a made-up mind isn’t going back. You never know the circumstances behind the “you’ll be back,” The biggest mistake is, going back. Whether it be domestic violence or not. I say this for all men/women. Never look back. You can’t make progress if you are looking backwards.

So, when people say that they are in their feelings, don’t take it to heart. Don’t force the issue. If a person wants to open up to you and tell you what’s going on, then that’s one thing. But if not, let them express themselves on their own whether they communicate with you or someone else.