There is no competition!

In life we all seem to have this way of looking at other peoples lives and comparing their own life to someone elses and its been made easier to do this now because of social media. We scroll through Instagram and see beautiful women with brand deals,who are building their own companys and going on amazing life changing hoildays and wonder how and why that isn't us or guys see other men buliding companys and getting amazingly expensive cars and having the hot girlfriend that everyone dreams off and wonders why it not them. Here's the thing that could be you. It'll take hard work and you'll need to educate yourself on business and investing, there will be bumps in the road and days you wanna give up but you get there but at the end of it all you will realise you were only in competition with yourself, you had to better yourself in order to be the better version and bet your old self at life.

My reason for saying all this is because its come to my attention lately that so many think that life is a game we are playing in which we have to compete with each other and the best guy wins and theres no rules on how dirty you can play, thats when shitty people show up and decide "let's tear this person down so we get further in life and feel better about ourselves" when thats really not how it works.

What we all need to realise is THERE IS NO COMPETITION! i may be better at one thing than another but they could be better at something i don't even know how to do and that's okay. Its almost like its drilled in our heads that we need to be the best at everything to keep what we have almost like we don't feel worthy of what we have.

For instints, a girl in a relationship my feel like shes in competition with other girls to keep her man but heres the thing,

1. If your boyfriend wants to be with you then you'll already know that no other girl has a chance of stealing him from you, so if you feel the need to compete then maybe you should be in that relationship.

2.other girls ( if they have respect for people and their happiness) don't even want your man he's with you, you can keep him we don't want him.

and 3. if you are getting the feeling youre in competition with other girls clearly other girls have caught a vibe from your man that he wants them so GET OUT OF THERE!

We are not in competition with each other when it comes to jobs, careers or even what makes us happy. Some of us may have similar passions but that doesn't mean we're in competition with eachother, if anything we should come together and create great thing together.

On a personal note, my love and passion for make up does not mean i am in competition with MUA'S, Beauty gurus, special fx artist and other people with the same love for make up as me. I would much rather come together with them and celebrate our passion for make up by creating something beauiful instead of being hated on or hating on them out of jealousy and/or to put them down because your are insecure about what you do and think they are better than you, that only tells the person you are insecure, you should try learning from them to better your skills and better yourself.

so heres a little something,

I'm an not in competition with you, i am not in competition with anyone but myself. I do not want your boyfriend, i do not think i am better than anyone.I am growing and learning to love myself and i am learning what i love and have a passion for. I am happy and i will successed in what i am doing with or without hate being thrown at me. I will not let someones fears of being over shadowned by me but me down and give up because we are not in competition with eachother.

now for a change of subject.

I hope you are all safe and healthly and doing well in this horrible time, just rememeber even though this feels like its going on forever and weeks feel like years, this will end but we will have a new found gratefulness for nature and being able to leave the house as you wish.

For anyone that is struggling with their depression and anxiety right now,I know you can get through this, you may not feel so strong right now and your bed may have consumed you but just hang on, open your window and take a deep breath in and exhale, this will end and you will find a daily routine again.I believe in you and you are so loved and i send so much love to you.Rememeber you are not in competiton with anyone you go at your own pace, it maybe slow but at least you are moving.

sending so much love to you all,

Aletia x