The Power of Denial

Sometimes, it’s hard to accept the truth. It can be right in our face, but we are in denial. Peter once denied Jesus.

We know when something isn’t good for us. Sometimes that “something” that isn’t good for us can turn into a habit. We know that smoking is not good for breathing; we smoke anyway. Drinking affects the liver and other organs; we drink anyway. Those are the 2 worse habits in the world, and they both are two leading causes of death in the world. But we are in denial about that because it’s a good feeling.

Seeing the bigger picture in a relationship is very hard. It can be months or years. It goes from a relationship to a situationship. This man/woman promised you the entire world and you fell for it. But every day, they say or do something different that is highly disrespectful. But you are in denial so you swallow your feelings and stay quiet. You stay when you should go and shut up when you should speak.

But, consistently being disrespected is not acceptable. No man/woman should be talking about their ex’s, in full detail, or always bringing up some random person they met. This person is denying the truth: they are not over the person they are with. They are deceiving themselves. If they were over that person, it wouldn’t be a constant conversation.

Next subject: friends. When you meet new people that you have things in common with, after so long, you become friends or you deem them your friends. You get close, start hanging out, etc. But someone has warned you about this person but you didn’t take heed to what was said. Being in denial got you in one big mess that you might or might not be able to get out of. Sometimes, it involves the criminal justice system. Sometimes, you may lose your life or come close to it.

On to the next subject: family members. Things aren’t like they used to be. Everybody used to be close. Nobody had beef with each other. But when an important person in the family died, it separates the entire family. Family members begin to pick and choose who they want to deal with it and everyone wants to act like they did so much more than the next person when it comes to a sick family member.

Last subject, religion. This is a big one but I’m going for it. If you are a Christian, your actions speak for you. You don’t have to make a big announcement. People are bad about saying that they are a Christian one minute and then the next minute, you catch them somewhere cussing someone out, gossiping about someone or doing something other than being Christ-like. But you are a Christian, right?

I always hear people talk about their standards as a Christian. I’m so glad that these people aren’t pastors. Always saying that there is nothing in the bible about this or nothing in the bible about that. The pastor is a person just like we are. Here’s my take: As long as the pastor is not doing something that is 100% against the bible, I’m not worried about it. What he does in the privacy of his own home, has nothing to do with me. In the bible, there are several scriptures about minding your own business yet, so-called Christians ignore them. I will list the content of them. The first one says saying things they ought not to say, and the second one says idlers going from house to house. But when you use these 2 and a few others, people will be in denial about what they have said or done.

To conclude my story, I say this: It’s hard to accept the truth when you have been told so many lies. It’s easy to fall for anything when you have fallen for everything you have tried to deny.