The most important thing is to finish, not how fast you start

So far, how many times have you said to yourself, "Oh, I don't think I'm talented, let's forget it" about things that you were originally interested in learning?

​​ This phrase is often used as a cessation to declare a period of complete failure of an effort. It is also often used when preparing to close a door and continue on an old path that did not require too many setbacks but did not see new scenery. .

​​ Is talent so important? Are you overestimating the power of talent?

​​I interviewed a cellist who was called a musical prodigy at the age of four and who grew up to be quite accomplished in music, and who initially denied that he was a genius. He said he was often asked in interviews in the United States: How much did talent account for his success? "I think it's less than 20%... However, among the 20%, my mother, who forced me to learn the piano since I was a child and didn't let me go out to play, contributed about 15%. above!"

​​ Talent does vary from person to person, but we often overestimate its impact. Looking back, I once said, "If you don't have talent, let's forget it", there are quite a few. To be honest, mostly because I am lazy and don’t want to persevere, I often quit quietly before I have learned enough to prove my talent.How many things that might change the direction of our lives or add to the joy of life, because this "the more wasteful the more afraid" reason, die? After listening to his words, if I understand something. Not only learning things, but also love. The more neglected him, the more afraid to see him;

​ Many people, like me, have an anticlimactic tendency. It's not that you don't want to work hard, it's just that you don't persevere. Sometimes it's just too much effort at the beginning, and soon the flexibility becomes fatigued. Or at the beginning, I was quite interested. After encountering a little difficulty, I told myself, "I'm not talented, forget it", and then went fishing for three days and drying the net for two days.

​ Take Japanese study in college as an example. In the beginning, I worked harder than any of my classmates. In addition to classes, I also attended cram schools and bought a variety of textbooks. My roommate gets up to read for half an hour every morning, and I swear to work harder than her, and read for an hour and a half longer than her, so I will always be better than her!It's just that her "half an hour a day" continued for four years, until she was admitted to Japan to study abroad at public expense; my two-hour daily efforts were constantly interrupted by "outings, barbecues, love and dozing". , Died before leaving the apprenticeship within a month, and passed the Japanese exam by cramming.

​​ In the future, I worked hard several times, and even carried a Japanese reading book with me every day, but all of them died with the wind without being "unrelenting", and then told myself: "Forget it, I don't think I'm good at learning Japanese. points." Now, I am still stuck at the level of Japanese writing.

​​The higher the frequency of "Forget it", the more likely we are to achieve nothing. Michael Howe, a British psychology professor who specializes in prodigies and geniuses, has come to an interesting conclusion: Geniuses are generally thought of as spontaneous, smooth and unhindered shining talents, but geniuses also take at least ten years to learn from them. special skills, without exception. To be an expert requires a stubborn personality and the ability to persevere. Professionals in every line of work will put a lot of effort into cultivating their professional talents.