speak ur ❤️

it's not as easy as just opening your mouth and voila - all the perfect words are born immediately and in coherent order.

nope.

that, my dear, takes practice. and yes, practice really does make perfect!

so what's the hardest thing you've ever had to say? (or haven't said yet?)

can you even find the words? so many times you feel it but are not able to articulate what the feeling is. it kinda goes like this in your body... "yep!" or "uhhh, hmmmm, errrrrmmmm" or "hell no!" and you can't figure out how to communicate it let alone string together a phrase to describe it.

finding the words, the right words, requires some super conscious practice. especially when you're stuck. it's at that time that you really need to understand what it is you're trying to say and maybe even create a way for you to express the feelings that haven't quite found their way to the surface just yet. for good reason, i’m sure. (a whole other article)

you see, the “stuckness” has a root cause that is usually something uncomfortable that happened a few (or many) steps prior to the moment when you’re trying to get something up and out. and likely, that root caused some kind of hurt that zapped you into making a “yikes, i’m not doing that again!” kind of decision.

sometimes the decisions are smart ones. to protect you from hurting yourself. (like not putting your hand on a hot stove, say.) and other times, the decisions are blockages that happened because your emotions got hurt and somehow those hurts created a protective barrier around you that hides, shields, and even makes invisible the real you.

the junky thing? we don’t like blockages because they end up creating “blocks” that literally weigh on you throughout your life. hurt, sadness, resentment, confusion, depression, anger, frustration, impatience, holding back, holding in, holding grudges…the list goes on and on. Each incident, from that one root cause, builds on another until the bags (or baggage) becomes so heavy (and mixed up) that it’s near impossible to figure out why things aren’t working out.

so 1, 2, 3...let’s take it in three starter steps to get your molecules stirred in the right direction. take these simple questions and let your words run at the mouth. write it all down knowing that these words are just for you to “see”. think of it as emptying out your pockets of all the things you’ve collected over your lifetime, putting all the contents on the table, and looking at all that “stuff”. you’ll be surprised at what you might find. to these next questions…let it rip:

1. what's holding you back?

2. what do you want to say?

3. what support do you need to feel the most awesome?

the good news is that writing things down – pen to paper – helps your body to articulate feelings that you may not have been taught to put into words. at first, things may come out jumbled, with magnificent negativity, and en masse, tangled and messy.

the good news is that we weren’t born to be perfect. we were born imperfect so again, practice really does make perfect. and practice can only happen if you be on the qui vive for those “ARGH moments” you find yourself in that you just want to stop. maybe even for good.

imagine if we focused on those areas in life that really get us down. Not to be depressing or anything like that but for the pure intent of freeing yourself from all the blocks that weigh you down.

it’s an important life’s work. if anything to return you to that place of peace, joy, and love so you can speak your heart. once and for all.

xoxo