Self-righteousness is good intentions to do bad things

The fable "Plucking the seedlings to help grow" tells of someone who wanted the seedlings to grow quickly, and actually went to pluck the seedlings one by one, but did not think that against the laws of nature "to help grow" is harmful, and finally made the seedlings are withered.

He thought that pulling up the seedlings was good for them, but in reality, he was hurting them, making a fool of himself.

There is no shortage of similar people in life, saying "I'm doing you a favor", but the reality is not always really good, or not necessarily the good you want.

Most people are used to pushing themselves to others, thinking that what they think is good, others also think good, but forget that there are differences between people.

What you think is just what you think, not necessarily what others want.

Be a person, don't think you are, and learn to listen to other people's ideas, otherwise, you will accidentally do bad things with good intentions.

1. There is a good, is I for your good

There is no shortage of leaders in the workplace in the name of "I am good for you", some are sincere, some are false, but do not understand each other's ideas, and a "good" may be a burden.

Sometimes, it can cause misunderstandings: you think you are nurturing him, but he thinks you are targeting him.

Interaction without communication is a chicken-and-egg situation so some people help others but cause resentment, and some people get the benefit but harbor hatred.

There are many sides to an issue, and different perspectives have different feelings.

As in the workplace to meet the harsh leadership, the leader feels that he is giving employees the opportunity, but employees feel that they are forced to pressure, and onlookers feel that they look at each other in a bad way ......

What each sees is a projection of what is in the mind, just as sometimes the words are only half heard will automatically brainstorm the next sentence, with a subjective mind to see the problem.

Whether to people, to things, more or less selfish in.

However, others do not like you, you give more, but also just bother.

In any case, want to help people, to ask each other first need.

2. It is hurt, is not good to refuse

The Norwegian Forest" wrote: "No matter what everyone in the world says, your feelings are the real thing."

Life is passing everywhere, only you are the helmsman of your destiny.

Instead of listening to what others say to live, why not be brave and do it yourself?

Must know, to rely on others, rather than rely on their own, regardless of fate, as long as they dare to face, they can slowly build up strength to achieve better.

Those who have encountered the "hard" in life, not necessarily harm, perhaps to promote; those so-called good things are not necessarily good, may be behind the hidden countless traps.

The only way to avoid falling into other people's "traps" is to feel it with your heart and express it bravely, and become a person who is sold out and still says thank you.

If you don't want to accept someone's kindness, then you must learn to say "no" bravely, otherwise accepting it will only make people think you like it.

Read a story.

A person is not good at refusing the kindness of others, so even if they do not like it, they will reluctantly accept.

The other party is helping you make decisions in the name of "for your good", and he thinks he is helping you, but he doesn't think he is "torturing" you, trapping you in an invisible cage.

At this point continue to tolerate, not to refuse, it is the same as self-torture.

This is the same as not being able to drink coffee, but yielding to the good intentions of others is not good enough to refuse, obviously drinking it will be allergic but still drinking, is the same as taking their own lives to bo.

Originally a sentence can be said to clear things, because of one party's self-righteousness, and one party's bad refusal became a big deal.

So, if you don't like it, you have to be brave enough to say it.

Hide not to say, others will think it's okay.

Instead of saying "bad refusal" is a compromise, it is better to say that this is the harm to their own, knowing that they can not do it.

Step back, in return is often a step closer.

The "I'm for your good" without realizing the mistake, will only continue to torture the "bad refusal" of the person.