Question

Many times in our lives especially the older we get we ponder on why things are not going our way. Why???? Why can't I catch a break? Why is my life going the way it goes? But it might not just be a stroke of luck, or spell you might do. It might be your own fault.

As a young adult my life was great. I lived to the fullest. I had lots of friends and boyfriends. I was with one guy for a while engaged at the age 18, and looking to buy a home. I had a great job and made lots of money back then. When suddenly my life fell apart. Without getting into the details I was starting to be put on the right path. Then I met someone else where I had my amazing son.

Here is where I went wrong. I kept listening to outside forces a lot of negativity while being a single mom. When your brain is trying to wrap the fact around becoming a parent for the first time alone, not being able to go back to your good job the last thing one needs is constant negativity. What you need is stabilization. You need to follow your instincts, not someone else's. All of sudden my perfect world making money, not being single, and exploring life to its fullest stopped for a bit.

Never go against the grain. Chase your dreams while you can. Listen to subtle hints that you get through the course of your life. If it feels too hard do not do it. Your life is supposed to be easy. Even if you are struggling, do not make that stress worse. Glide as best as you can. Believe in yourself, your gut, and signs that you receive. That is your truth.

Do you have a dream? Do you have something you want to accomplish? Do not share with others unless you know they are going to support you. Trust me I used to tell people one day I am going to do this and this. Feedback I got. You are in destruct mode. You will never make it. Why do you do things you cannot do? Ok, you are punishing yourself. Honestly, I am not sure why I got such negative feedback, but it was constant. Until I published my first book. I was also told I can't sing or play guitar. I sound horrible. Yet, one of my songs is out there professionally. So do not listen to others. Do you think you have what it takes to do whatever it is to accomplish? Do it.

Another point I would like to make on this subject that helps even more. Please surround yourself with people like minded as yourself. Have your soulmate like what you like, enjoy what you enjoy, and love the way you love. Your friends should also have the same values as you do. Your friends do not have to be as creative as you. But they should enjoy going out and doing whatever it is you like to do, and have the same interests. Align with the right people and the universe will align with you. Your life will align with you.

Once your life aligns with you peace will start to come. You will not believe how easy it is to combat struggles you have faced or will face once things align with you. Yes, you are still going to face things that are out of your control. It will be a lot easier to do, because you are not juggling so many obstacles to find yourself. Questions like, Am I good enough, Will I make something out of myself, or Why am I such a dissappointment? The only thing you will be juggling is the obstacle at hand.

Remember you are so important in this world to yourself, and others that appreciate you. You have a purpose in life. You are here to make a difference. Vibe your way.

Written by

Cheryl A. Nocera