Nothing To Lose

Aren't we constantly changing? Aren’t we constantly discovering and unearthing new ways and channels and processes of doing things and living our very lives? Sometimes we don't even realise how much we have changed until events in our lives begin to reveal to us the progress... or decline that we have made and the reality sets in. Nothing remains the same forever and this is perhaps the most underrated aspect of our existence as human beings.

A beautiful thing about change, apart from the fact that it is constant and unchanging, is that we alone determine how we react to change. We can either respond to it, make the necessary adjustments and create the space that it requires for it to fully materialise or we can resist it because we quite like the previous state of things and aren't quite ready to evolve. But anyone who has gone through a change process, however painful, will attest that when it is all over, is one of life's biggest blessings if we can properly process and harness the beauty of it.

It is change that creates what we refer to as experience which then becomes the currency with which we trade with the people who surround us. What right have you to offer anyone any piece of advice if you have not EXPERIENCED what it is that they feel in that exact moment. How can you confidently assure me that all will be will when you haven't the slightest idea what it means to walk in my shoes.

Change knows no gender or race; experience does not regard age. People become estranged regardless of clime or location. Children leave their parents when they come of age, sometimes before. We become wiser through this thing called experience.

What is my message exactly?

Embrace every of those changes. Nothing to be ashamed of. You are learning how to do it better. You are learning what it means to be you and yes, the war will rage within. Yes, those tears may feel like they will never cease. Yes, you may even be publicly criticised by so called opinion sharers, trendsetters and influencers. But in the end, you know just what it takes to walk in those shoes. You have grown. And that growth is yours to own.

So how do I celebrate and maximise my change experience? Change is Hard. Change is difficult. It is painful and even destabilising for some people especially when it is met with unpreparedness. Some people may not recover from the aftermath of change.

There is no hard and fast rule to celebrating your change and the improvement is brings along, and some people may choose the best way they like to express and celebrate themselves but here are a few very general tips that worked for me and may work for you too;

• Do something new. Try a new dish. Get a new hairstyle and document your look. Go somewhere new and doesn’t have to be expensive. Immerse yourself in the beauty that life has to offer us.

• Document your experience and record the things that makes it beautiful or different or even worth remembering. This can go a long way in putting your progress and growth in perspective for months to come.

• Create something from that experience. Every experience has its own energy and its own force which can be fully harnessed or channelled. Make the most use of this occurrence and create something beautiful from it.

• Pass it on. You have no idea how many thousands of people want to hear how you did it and maybe gain inspiration and hope from your experience and apply same principles to various aspects of their lives

• Go on living. Decide to live life to the fullest.