My 5 Mind Rules!

1. Do things for yourself before anyone else, be selfish!

Why? Because at the end of the day you only have yourself, whether you can admit it or not people in this day are not how they used to be. You can not worry about others who simply do not worry about you, you should not stress out about others who do not worry about you, and lastly, do things for yourself! That car you wanted to buy, but didn't, go buy it! That outfit you wanted to wear but someone didn't like it, WEAR IT. Stop worrying about what others think. Self care and self love is the most important thing a woman can do for herself and her mental health which is what my next rule is about!

2. Love yourself it may be hard at first, but once you do there is no going back!

I struggled with self love for many years very recent years! But now, I have learned that I have to love myself in order to allow myself to feel loved. My curves and extra meat, I used to hate it but now when I look into the mirror and see a confident women who does not need the satisfaction of others! I feel sexy in my body, I love to dress up and admire myself now. It has boosted my confidence tremendously and I used to be so introverted but no I have more confidence going out. I definitely feel like it impacted my social life and gave me extreme anxiety, I used to think everyone was whispering or talking about me when I went out in public and now, to put it frankly I could give neither one or two fusses about what anyone says or thinks. I no longer pay attention to the people around me I pay attention to myself, and I motivate myself.

3. Stop being nice to those who do not deserve it!

Family is the perfect example, I spent years trying to fit in and trying to make others happy when in the end they were always so ungrateful and rude about everything. That definitely took a toll on me mentally I grew to think I should please people always be nice and just try and make others happy no matter what it takes. I was like that through out my entire school years which I do not regret, but I do wish I knew that I didn't have to be that way. People will take advantage of the fact that you are a nice person, because that's just how horrible people are. One day I just had enough and cut every single toxic person out of my life, and I was not nice to those who no longer deserved it. I wasn't mean of course, I just kept my distance and declined any type of invitations back into their lives. I have to be honest ever since then I have been nothing but happy, and I have less headaches, I sleep better and I worry way less! I just worry about my immediate family, and myself of course. That has been the best decision I have ever made.

4. Do yoga, workout, or any type of activity that can relax your mind and body.

Like I said in my paragraph above, once I let all the anger stress and sadness out of my body I felt lighter. I felt happier, more relaxed and at peace! Yoga helps me relax, and breathe. It gives me time of just meditation and my mind goes blank and any tense that I have in my body no longer exists. I know that sounds like a ton of crap, but I promise it's not. It may not be for everyone but it is worth a shot. Writing also helps, it keeps me occupied and keeps me from thinking, or over thinking about things that I should not worry about.

5. Girl, just go for it!