Milestone moments

So this year I got the privilege of being part of not one but three of the most beautiful individuals I get to call my friends witness getting married.

And me being the photography lover that I am, get to capture these gorgeous beings moments in one beautiful shot.

So a thought occurred to me today after witness these three milestone,wondrous events. Why was I so moved? I mean I dont have wedding fever.

I think it is because for me these things are a milestone is someone’s life.

This person that got married is my friend. That component hasn't changed.

So what has? Is it my love of suddenly busting a filmy over the top move at any given chance? My ability to take selfies at all different angles, in various amazing outfits and pouts that could probably put Karan Johar to shame! Yeah didn't think so.

You know what I do think it is though. I think it is the friend that gets married that shape my "nazar". Because I think while weddings in our community are a billion dollar business. For us kids we don't think it's the business that makes the wedding grand.

It's the friends whose weddings we are taking part in. Our friend we grew up with, we learnt to eat rice with, have our first (of many ) sneaky tequila shots with. Our friends we have that have been our occasional partners in crime for the midnight maccas run after an amazing night out clubbing or our shoulder to cry on after yet another loser you dumped.

These were the friends that were their throughout the years in our community, the people by force we grew up with as kids and as adults we choose to love.

Sounds beautiful right.

But here's the thing while a lot of your friends do get married.

Maybe some of you might feel like you have been left behind simply

because you didn't 'join in' the married crowd.

Maybe even a little scared because well the thing is weather you know it or not

friendships are a type of a relationship.

In my lifetime I have observed way too many times. When the right guy or girl comes along their is this sudden change of behaviour that might happen between two great best friends. When the person in the situation does meet the love of their life.

Suddenly their once 'chaddi buddy' who used to kick you out of bed every morning to wake your ass up after sleeping in from the night before.

From an improvised sleepover that you took for granted, because that was the friendship you two had it changed.

Because of a third person whom you weren't even consulted on, you were just introduced to. I have seen the look of my friends the look on their faces as they tell me these stories. The absolute heartache they feel, the assault on their emotional senses.

The sheer nonsense of it all, why suddenly probably after 10 or 15 years of existence and mutual love of whatever feeling of home this person is to you is their this sudden shift, who is this third wheeling looser!

All this, because this third person was suddenly introduced into their life.

A life which was interrupted by someone else who may have taken away your constant emotional safety net for one reason or another, (no I am not the anjali of this story).

So if there's one take away is this. If you are the Anjali in this situation,

talk to your friend. Because honestly for every Anjali in the world, their is Rahul.

Who will hear what you are saying, will remind you, your existence matters to them. You are not an inconvenience in their milestone moments, they chose you to be there by their side because you are probably who they get their strength from.

Even if you didn't know it at the time. You are the person who still has the right to kick your friends butt right out of bed. To rock up to their house and eat all the food in the fridge, to treat their mother like your mother. To stay up all night and catch up on gossip over midnight fresh hot parathas sprinkled with crunchy sugar because this person is your chaddi buddy. And well you know the code chaddi buddies before other buddies.

I promise you if you do this your ‘nazaar’ will be able to take in the beautiful milestone once in a blue moon when your best friend gets married. You are gonna feel all kinds of pride for them that you didn't even know you could feel because your best friend finally got their happy ending