Live, we must learn to let go

The old accounts are a lot of work and effort, and it's a thankless task.

However, knowledge is to know, the old account as usual, especially in married life, once the quarrel is bound to turn the old account, counting each other's mistakes and their grievances, emotions on the head, can not stop, the result of a fight, hurt feelings, each other are not good.

Is it worth doing so? Of course not worth it.

Perhaps this is a habit, the truth is known but not practiced, and that is why when things happen, they are handled according to the instinctive reaction, and the result is that things get worse.

Therefore, instead of worrying about how to "let go" of old debts, you should change your life and learn to let go between trade-offs, to get a new start.

Give up, give up, give up, give up to gain.

1. Give up desire, get happiness

Have you ever heard the story of the little monkey who picked up sesame seeds and lost the watermelon?

This story is about the little monkey who was lucky one day and kept picking up things after entering the forest.

If he started to choose what he wanted, to control their desires, not to the end, only to pick up sesame.

This shows that things are good, we must act according to our ability, otherwise, we will be manipulated by desire, only to become a slave to desire, the worse the good days.

Desire is a chronic poison, addicted to easily killing people.

Life in the world, know how to give up desire, to control their lives, in restraint to harvest true happiness.

2. Give up climbing, get free

I have met such a person who likes to compare with others everywhere.

It's okay to compare grades, at least it doesn't cost money, but unfortunately, she prefers to compare brand names, and at a young age she likes to use the price to show how good things are.

Sometimes, see a person bought a brand name, she will buy a better one in a few days, the money to buy it is fine, the most fear is the lack of money to fill the big money, constantly buy buy buy, will only increase their debt.

At first, everyone thought her family was very rich, so they could afford to keep buying brand names but later learned that she had borrowed money in many places, if it were not for people coming to the door to collect debts, no one would have thought that the bright and shiny as she would become like this.

Why bother, for a false name, overdraft credit?

Later, I heard from others that I had seen her on the street, not as beautiful as once, people have aged a lot, and the back looked a bit sad.

Life can not start over, the climbing heart is too heavy, only to make yourself more and more tired of living, and finally become a slave to life, can only carry the weight forward, difficult to relieve.

Perhaps in her opinion, the views of others are very important but did not think that the gaze of others, their own heart is overly concerned about others more terrible, over time, living into a false appearance of an "empty shell".

People live in the world, some live as the face, and some live as the son. And only the inside can win the real face. What is given by external objects is nothing.

Instead of living so tired, why not learn from now on to put down the "climbing", heart to feel the beauty of life, enjoy the life you want, and come free and easy?

3. Let go of your obsessions and get a life

Alain de Botton Alain de Botton wrote in "Philosophical Solace": "Do not be surprised by the fact that things do not go as you wish, because the universe is much bigger than you."

Life is inevitably unexpected, and even the most elaborate plans have the possibility of failure, not to mention the long road of life, failure is not terrible, what is terrible is not having the courage to stand up.

Sometimes, you think there is no way out of the road, the actual turn will be able to see a new road, there is no need to go all the way, let go of the excess obsession, to read life in the suffering.

The last thing you need is a way out.

What can't be passed is the present, the past is yesterday, put down the blindfolded obsessions, and you will find more than one road.

You see, those stars no longer shooting, will also return to the life of ordinary people; show business can not go on, will also find a common job to do; poor and can not live, will also work hard for money.

Live, is more important than anything else.

As long as you are willing to let go, then there is a chance to start over.

There is more than one way to live, and more than one way to live.

There are degrees of giving and take, and only then will you be complete.

We will eventually be able to transform into a better version of ourselves in time.