Live by Your Values and Everything Else Will Fall into Place

As I sit here writing this, I am in the midst of a big change in my life, a change that I have seen from living other people’s values ​​and expectations I point to and live for myself.

The reason for the change was health fears when, on my 30th birthday, my doctor told me I might have cervical cancer. Luckily, I clarified everything, but something had changed and I realized how dissatisfied I was with my life. I felt like I was swimming against the waves; it was all a struggle.

At the time, I was on the verge of getting what I wanted: money, a good job, and the ability to buy more.

I had my own house and car and was out of the house 12 to 13 hours a day working. For me, that was a success. However, my desire just seemed to disappear overnight and I fell into a trance.

I felt tired, sick all the time, drinking and eating too much, and it was all I could do to drag myself to bed in the morning to go to work. (I was making a four-hour walk every day.) Quoting Julie Roberts on Eat, Pray, Love, “Do you know what I heard this morning? Nothing. No love, no spark, no faith, no heat, nothing! ”

I was unaware at the time, but as soon as I began to doubt my health, I became more and more aware of the universe I wanted - which I needed - to change things.

I started taking a freelance job to see if I could rekindle my passion for my job. I found that people wanted my help, which boosted my self-confidence and made me realize how low I felt after working for years in a harsh environment and competition that would not feed me.

I just thought that, if I could earn money as a freelancer, I should start my own business. I have decided to continue the work I am currently doing for another six months and I am building a business in the little time I have.

An hour after I made that decision, I had another conflicting email from a partner based on someone else's lies. I resigned that day. I already felt easy.

I became involved in business and hated it. Now I know that it was because I was not ready, and I went into business as a marketing consultant, which I did not like.

Working alone at home was not for me, and financial instability meant that I had to work hard. There were panic attacks, further illnesses, and I am sure I quickly headed to the stage where I would need anti-depressant medication.

When I hit the ground running, I had epiphany and realized that the two most important things I need in life are:

1. Social media almost daily

2. A certain level of security - which is why I was so determined to buy a house, where most of the 25-year-olds rent and move around. I am a local person in my opinion.

If the basic level of security and solitude at all times in my life are ‘breakers,’ then why am I trying to build a life that doesn’t unite them? I needed to connect with my real values.

I started reading books and articles, whatever I could find, about my values ​​and how to see them.

I saw the values ​​I lived for thirty years ago, the values ​​that had been the basis for every major life decision I had ever made. I subscribed to the top ten below:

Status obtained through work

Money and riches

Development - This is good for me if development is mine or spiritual, but in this case it was focused on work and finances.

Wealth

Prestige

Recognition

Leadership

Materialism

Perfection

Success - I still want to achieve and I still have goals, but it's different if it's a goal you've set based on your basic values.

The prices I was living on were not mine but those of a close family member. It’s not a bad price, but it’s not my standards; they are not the most important things to me and how I live my life.

Now who was I? What were my values? I didn't know.

During this time I was trying to keep up my business to earn money to pay off debts while 'finding out' and negotiating jobs. I found the first role I had played as a marketing manager for a living business and environment that suited me best as a person. It allowed me to continue my self-discovery journey.

My most basic values, the values ​​I live on now, are:

Security

Good / fulfilling relationships with friends and family

Satisfaction - I love simple things; they make me feel like I have a lot of content.

Peace - I can't handle conflicts, drama, noisy places, or unnecessary competition; which is why my previous job in a busy city with the sound of a large, competitive company was not for me.

Pleasure - Ever since I started living up to my standards, life has become much better.

Laughter - I like good laughter; my friends, family, a simple view of life, and an unusual comedy film or comedy stand up gave me this.

Honesty - I am loyal to my family, friends, colleagues and community.

Financial freedom - This does not mean earning a lot of money for me, but actually keeping life simple and living within my means.

Passion - Ever since I wrote this article I have moved on and decided that my true love has been written down, so I recently started as a freelance copywriter and blogger. This will mean many changes and new challenges, but I am very excited about the future.

Simplicity - This to me corresponds to the majority of the nine values; a simple life is worth it for me.

So what wisdom can I pass on after my journey?

1. Your core values ​​play a major role in how you decide to live your life.