Letting Go

Greetings friends.

I wanted to dig deep for this blog, write about something that I felt would be beneficial to us all. If you are reading this and going through something, I hope this blog clears your head a little and gives you some sort of peace of mind.

The way I see it, life is like a card game. Sometimes we get dealt the bad hands, sometimes we get dealt the good hands. The game of life can be tough and filled with hardships, pain, and suffering. The game of life can also be fun, happy, with hardships of course but with an abundance of light and good energy to make those hardships seem like walks in the park. Either way, as humans, we all go through challenges in life that shape our mindset. I feel like we all experience pain, and that shapes us, affecting how we view the world around us and especially how we view the people in our lives, especially those who have caused us pain.

Sometimes, we have to step back from those who have caused us pain – put a little distance between us and them in order to get our heads together. That is okay. Nobody will think you’re a bad person for doing something for your own sanity. I feel like if you continue to talk to someone that causes you some pain, even if not intentional, you will lose your mind. You have to address the pain first and pinpoint what exactly is causing you the hurt. Is it when they mention the future without you in it? Or is it the mere mention of the past? The mention of what could have been? There could be something else that this person does that causes you pain. Maybe they constantly ignore you and your pleas and attempts for communication, or they make you feel like this awful person for just being yourself. Maybe pain comes in the form of rejection by those close to you, because you don’t live life the way they want you to.

Pain comes in all forms, and no matter how much it hurts, sometimes we have to let go.

I came across the top image on We Heart It actually; not sure where it came from, but it popped up on one of my feeds. It is true, sometimes holding onto something because it is ‘comfortable’, will hurt you more in the end than it does to face the fear and let go. I get it; humans don’t like change – most of us anyway. Most of us hate change, and it’s partly due to fear, I believe. We become so comfortable in our shell; we have this normal way of life or normal routine, that if anything is introduced to this, we shut it down and want nothing to do with it because we are scared of the “normal” suddenly changing and no longer being what we are used to.

That sense of ‘normal’ can sometimes be the one thing that is holding us back, hindering us from living up to our full potential and experiencing the joy and happiness that life has to offer us. It is okay to distance yourself from those who mean you no good; it’s okay to finally let go of what is hurting you so much. I know it is hard and I know that it sucks – change sucks. But sometimes, the change that sucks is the best thing that could possibly happen to us. Let go of the negative energy, and surround yourself with light and good energy; good people who have your best interests at heart and who have good intentions. Believe me, this is the reason why I do not have that many friends. I had a good few friends some years back, but they ultimately turned out to be no good for me. They turned their backs on me, stabbed me in the back – I suppose because I was not one who wanted to participate in the activities that they were participating in. I wish them well, but I am glad I let go. It hurt more to hold on than it did letting go, and with letting go, I have peace.

It is scary to let go, especially when holding on has become the normal, become something that you are so used to. But change helps us to grow and succeed. Change helps us to heal and move on from the pain. If you are in a situation that is causing you pain, please, let go. You have support around you, and even if it feels like you do not, I am here to support you – promise.

I love you all.