Learn From the Past

“Learn from the past, don’t live in it. You will never be able to reach forward to the abundance of His favor that awaits you if you are constantly looking behind you. Things that have happened to you in the past might be hard to get over but you need to try to deal with them and move forward from here.”

I read this somewhere and it stuck with me. This is how I want to live and how I want my children to live. Always remember that your experiences make you who you are. You grow, you get stronger, you learn, you become wiser and more resilient. I firmly believe that the universe does not allow things to happen to us without a purpose. Sometimes we also play a role in those experiences as well, because He also gave us free will to choose. I know I have made some dumb choices which led me to not so happy places and in retrospect I think I knew better, but I was hardheaded and wanted to do things my way instead of His way so I suffered the consequences. Perhaps that is The Universe’s way of teaching us a lesson so we don’t make the same mistakes again.

We need to remember though, reflecting on your past should not condemn you to it. You can visit it as a reminder of what not to do the next time. Perhaps look back and use those experiences to give advice to others Just remember, don’t stay stuck in your past mistakes to the point that you are paralyzed and don’t move forward in your greatness. Use your past as a stepping stone to make you the best you that you can be. Isn’t that what we all should be striving for? I know I am. I work on this every day. You can look at your past as somewhat of a blessing too. A lot of my mistakes led me to amazingly wonderful blessings in the end.

It is hard to keep things in perspective when you’ve made mistakes you’re not so proud of. When I was younger, I was so stuck in my own feelings and pain from the past that I couldn’t see beyond my mistakes. I was walking in the proverbial quicksand of life, punishing myself daily because my mantra was that I deserved all that I got so this was where I should be. But I woke up one day and removed the lens of self-doubt, self-hate and self-deprecation. I came to the realization that those bad choices don’t define me, they don’t make me who I am. All the choices I make, good or bad, are part of my past but I am not them, they are just a small part of me in the grand scheme of me. Those mistakes helped me to become who I am and I would hope that it’s a better version of who I was before.

I am learning every day how to walk in my blessings, including my mistakes. I am practicing daily, how to love who I am and the skin I am in. I remind myself, He does not make mistakes. I have children, so if I am peaching to them to love themselves regardless of their mistakes, I need to walk that same path. Being consciously present in the now and working to find a way to live with all the things I have gone through, even the not so pretty parts. Rest assured, The Universe will guide you to the peace you seek and the forgiveness you need to give yourself as well. Even if you don’t believe in A higher power, I truly believe that whatever you focus on is what the universe returns back to you. So instead of focusing on the horrible mistakes of your past, try to focus on the blessing that we developed from those mistakes. Refocus your view and you will truly be able to move forward in happiness – not to mention a little wiser too.

How do you deal with your past and getting over your hurt?